Hello all! For this thread, I am both asking for advice and for general stories.
I recently returned to FFXI because I've been feeling very nostalgic for it lately. As soon as I logged in, however, I remembered why I had left in the first place. Simply put, the person who harassed me in-game for years was online at the time as well, and it wasn't even five minutes before I had five messages from him. It wasn't a terribly... Welcoming or reassuring thing to come back to after being gone for so long, to say the least.
I haven't been on again since, but I learned from our very brief exchange that he will be playing ARR. I don't know which server he'll be on, but this makes me now feel extremely uncomfortable about ARR, especially if I play the race and gender that I want to play.Â
For a number of reasons, I won't be listing his name here or my history with him in this post. The biggest reason being that he is a relatively influential person in the FFXI (and now possibly the FFXIV) community. Suffice it to say there are a number of reasons why I haven't just simply pulled him aside and asked him to stop (although I... have, technically, in the past), or reported him to the GM's.
So, as a general question, have any of you lovely people been unfortunately harassed in FFXI before? How did you handle it?
For specific advice relating to my situation, what should I do about my character's race and gender? I already have my RP character all planned out, but it may be possible for him to recognize me from my race/gender (or even from appearance, since I was modelling her after my FFXI character originally), or to start harassing me again over it without even realizing it's me. Should I change my characters race and rework a lot about her just to feel safer, or should I bite the bullet and play the character I want to play?Â
I mean, I still don't even know if he'll even be on the RP server, since he never seemed interested in that kind of thing, but I can't help but feel paranoid nonetheless...
If anyone wants/needs any specifics on my situation, please PM me rather than ask about it on this thread. I'm sorry, but I'm just not quite comfortable giving out specifics on a public forum;;
I recently returned to FFXI because I've been feeling very nostalgic for it lately. As soon as I logged in, however, I remembered why I had left in the first place. Simply put, the person who harassed me in-game for years was online at the time as well, and it wasn't even five minutes before I had five messages from him. It wasn't a terribly... Welcoming or reassuring thing to come back to after being gone for so long, to say the least.
I haven't been on again since, but I learned from our very brief exchange that he will be playing ARR. I don't know which server he'll be on, but this makes me now feel extremely uncomfortable about ARR, especially if I play the race and gender that I want to play.Â
For a number of reasons, I won't be listing his name here or my history with him in this post. The biggest reason being that he is a relatively influential person in the FFXI (and now possibly the FFXIV) community. Suffice it to say there are a number of reasons why I haven't just simply pulled him aside and asked him to stop (although I... have, technically, in the past), or reported him to the GM's.
So, as a general question, have any of you lovely people been unfortunately harassed in FFXI before? How did you handle it?
For specific advice relating to my situation, what should I do about my character's race and gender? I already have my RP character all planned out, but it may be possible for him to recognize me from my race/gender (or even from appearance, since I was modelling her after my FFXI character originally), or to start harassing me again over it without even realizing it's me. Should I change my characters race and rework a lot about her just to feel safer, or should I bite the bullet and play the character I want to play?Â
I mean, I still don't even know if he'll even be on the RP server, since he never seemed interested in that kind of thing, but I can't help but feel paranoid nonetheless...
If anyone wants/needs any specifics on my situation, please PM me rather than ask about it on this thread. I'm sorry, but I'm just not quite comfortable giving out specifics on a public forum;;
