I'll echo what the others have said, in different wording: The character and the player are separate entities. One is Captain Jack Sparrow, the other is Johnny Depp. For all his zaniness, Johnny Depp is not Jack, his life isn't like Jack's, his personality isn't Jack's.
So, bearing in mind that fundamental truth... if you find yourself - that is to say, you the player, not your character - feeling like you're in love with Jack Sparrow, then you must recognize that you're feeling that way about fiction. Your feelings aren't for Johnny Depp.
If, on the other hand, you were chatting with each other out-of-character... not roleplaying, but player to player at that point... then that's different. However, it's only very slightly different. Most people are very different on the internet than they are in person, because a lot of the social awkwardness or anxiety that comes with interaction differs greatly in an online environment (especially by text, but even by voice or webcam). Here, it's easy to express yourself in terms of what you believe you are and what you want to be, rather than what you really are. It's easy to say one loves to cook, but reality may be that one routinely has pizza delivered because one spends one's evening at the computer in FFXIV rather than with a ladle and pot.Â
My advice is... just... don't. If you're single and lonely, this isn't an answer to that. Yeah, there are examples out there of people who met as players in an MMO, across states or countries, and met each other over those distances, relocated, married, etc, and their lives turned out happy. There's also like a bajillion examples of how it turned out terrible for everyone involved. It's improbable that you'd be the exception, and that's just statistical logic.
So, bearing in mind that fundamental truth... if you find yourself - that is to say, you the player, not your character - feeling like you're in love with Jack Sparrow, then you must recognize that you're feeling that way about fiction. Your feelings aren't for Johnny Depp.
If, on the other hand, you were chatting with each other out-of-character... not roleplaying, but player to player at that point... then that's different. However, it's only very slightly different. Most people are very different on the internet than they are in person, because a lot of the social awkwardness or anxiety that comes with interaction differs greatly in an online environment (especially by text, but even by voice or webcam). Here, it's easy to express yourself in terms of what you believe you are and what you want to be, rather than what you really are. It's easy to say one loves to cook, but reality may be that one routinely has pizza delivered because one spends one's evening at the computer in FFXIV rather than with a ladle and pot.Â
My advice is... just... don't. If you're single and lonely, this isn't an answer to that. Yeah, there are examples out there of people who met as players in an MMO, across states or countries, and met each other over those distances, relocated, married, etc, and their lives turned out happy. There's also like a bajillion examples of how it turned out terrible for everyone involved. It's improbable that you'd be the exception, and that's just statistical logic.
Lydia Lightfoot ~ The Reliquarian's Guild «Relic» ~ Lavender Beds, Ward 12, #41
This player has a sense of humor. If the content of the post suggests otherwise, please err on the side of amusement and friendship, because that's almost certainly the intent. We're all on the same team: Team Roleplayer! Have a smile, have a chuckle, and have a slice of pie. Isn't pie great?
This player has a sense of humor. If the content of the post suggests otherwise, please err on the side of amusement and friendship, because that's almost certainly the intent. We're all on the same team: Team Roleplayer! Have a smile, have a chuckle, and have a slice of pie. Isn't pie great?
