(11-06-2015, 03:24 AM)synaesthetic Wrote: the context was in the post
and yes, it was a shaming statement.
and even if it's not a shaming statement, people who use the word "ho" and "slut" in a "joking" manner would probably not like being around me. because I would call that shit out just as I'd call out rape jokes or transphobic jokes or fat jokes.
it should be pretty easy not to be a jerk, but for some people it seems nigh-impossible.
You're confusing subjectivity of usage with being a jerk.
The context is in the post, yes. To you, it is a shaming statement. To the poster, it obviously wasn't.
Does this make them a bigot? If their intention was not to hurt, then absolutely not, it's just a stated difference in how people prefer that particular piece of that language to be used.
If a white person from Inner NYC called me "my n'ga," there would be no problem. To someone else, there would be.
This is subjectivity of usage.