What I read from that sort of argument is this:
I do not like writing romance rp 95% of the time. The remaining 5% I write with players I know and trust. What you are telling me is that I should spend time and effort with people looking for romance rp just because there is a very slim chance I might find something worthwhile, when I am happiest looking for the kind of rp that I feel like rping.
I feel like this argument is damning anyone who knows what they like. That's not saying that anyone is being closeminded, it's saying "I know what I like and until someone exceptional comes along, I will do what makes me happy."
Besides which, I feel like there's this sort of disconnect in the judgement-free arguments, where you assume that people are sticking completely rigidly to some inner set of guidelines. I highly doubt that's the case. Could be there's some like that, but I think for most people you write with people whose writing or characters you are drawn to.
I have had many, many experiences where I've tried to rp with someone even when my initial feeling was that I would not enjoy the rp. Every. Single. Time. I did not enjoy the rp (since I've been rping around 13-14 years now, and I used to rp every day, there've been a lot of times).
I know what I like, I know what I don't like. When I'm not sure, I tend to give it a shot. But when I know myself and the things I like and don't like, why would I punish myself by trying to fit a square peg in a round hole? (and that's not to say people don't occasionally try things again to see if anything has changed -- like I said, if I start feeling neutral about something or unsure, I try it again, but most of the time with things I don't like, I don't like).
It's like when people say "OMG you don't like to eat __ ?????? YOU'RE SO WRONG, clearly you just haven't given it enough of a chance! Have you tried it this way? Well, I'm going to cook for you/take you to a restaurant because you might like it!"
I hate that.
I do not like writing romance rp 95% of the time. The remaining 5% I write with players I know and trust. What you are telling me is that I should spend time and effort with people looking for romance rp just because there is a very slim chance I might find something worthwhile, when I am happiest looking for the kind of rp that I feel like rping.
I feel like this argument is damning anyone who knows what they like. That's not saying that anyone is being closeminded, it's saying "I know what I like and until someone exceptional comes along, I will do what makes me happy."
Besides which, I feel like there's this sort of disconnect in the judgement-free arguments, where you assume that people are sticking completely rigidly to some inner set of guidelines. I highly doubt that's the case. Could be there's some like that, but I think for most people you write with people whose writing or characters you are drawn to.
I have had many, many experiences where I've tried to rp with someone even when my initial feeling was that I would not enjoy the rp. Every. Single. Time. I did not enjoy the rp (since I've been rping around 13-14 years now, and I used to rp every day, there've been a lot of times).
I know what I like, I know what I don't like. When I'm not sure, I tend to give it a shot. But when I know myself and the things I like and don't like, why would I punish myself by trying to fit a square peg in a round hole? (and that's not to say people don't occasionally try things again to see if anything has changed -- like I said, if I start feeling neutral about something or unsure, I try it again, but most of the time with things I don't like, I don't like).
It's like when people say "OMG you don't like to eat __ ?????? YOU'RE SO WRONG, clearly you just haven't given it enough of a chance! Have you tried it this way? Well, I'm going to cook for you/take you to a restaurant because you might like it!"
I hate that.
