Retcons I leave as a very last dramatic things to do. It really, really has to super silly roleplay, like legit idiotic stuff for me to retcon it. So far on FFXIV it hasn't happened yet! If roleplay gets cut short, I tend to just discuss things briefly OOC, whenever the other play and I both have time for it.
However, skimming further down your post, I totally understand the perils you are facing! One character of mine had her other half poofing due to real life troubles. We did however talk about it, and got things sorted. I think communication is the key. If it doesn't happen, and the other person just poofed without a reason, and no contact to be found OOC (some people do ragequit the game after all), I think it is in all your right to write an ending to that story line. Having the other one gone missing, thinking the other one is dead ect, whatever works for you. Eorzea is 'thankfully' full with dangers so it isn't hard conjuring up something.
Of course if you'd rather ignore the development, positively and negatively, for your character and sooner retcon it? That's fully in your right as well. I just wouldn't do it myself
However, skimming further down your post, I totally understand the perils you are facing! One character of mine had her other half poofing due to real life troubles. We did however talk about it, and got things sorted. I think communication is the key. If it doesn't happen, and the other person just poofed without a reason, and no contact to be found OOC (some people do ragequit the game after all), I think it is in all your right to write an ending to that story line. Having the other one gone missing, thinking the other one is dead ect, whatever works for you. Eorzea is 'thankfully' full with dangers so it isn't hard conjuring up something.
Of course if you'd rather ignore the development, positively and negatively, for your character and sooner retcon it? That's fully in your right as well. I just wouldn't do it myself
