(04-07-2016, 02:29 PM)Osena Rhen Wrote:(04-07-2016, 02:13 PM)Faye Wrote: <snip> someone said this sounds "situational." It doesn't. They're making you unhappy OOC. <snip>
That would be me, and of course it's situational. We're being given one side of a story that undoubtedly has two sides. Miscommunication happens. Misunderstanding happens. Real-life stress can overflow unintentionally into in-game misbehavior. A flat-out lack of someone communicating "Hey, this is a boundary for me" can occur and the other person may not realize that was a boundary (not all boundaries are obvious). As a result of any of those things, unhappiness can happen between two friends who both like each other a lot and who mean to do good towards each other. A scenario like this is never as simple as "you feel badly, cut them off". If that's how we all were to behave, we'd never retain any friends at all, because even the best of friends sometimes tick each other off.
It isn't situational. One party is not happy. One party is behaving in a controlling manner from the other party's perspective. It isn't situational, because that suggests that sometimes the aggrieved party should just put up with it. No one should put up with it.
Here, let me say this again: No one should put up with this.
No one should put up with feeling like they can't enjoy themselves in pixel happy fun times. No one should feel like they have to hide their online presence from their so-called friend, for fear of emotional manipulation. No one should put up with OOC restrictions on their RP from someone they're not romantically involved with (and even if they are romantically involved with the person, there are limits on what those restrictions should be without things getting in the creepyweird territory).
Why would you want to retain a friend who makes you feel guilty about RPing? Why would you want to retain a friend who makes unreasonable demands on you, and doesn't appear to understand that the demands are unreasonable?
It isn't situational. If this relationship is harming the OP, then the OP needs to leave. Full stop. Because the most important thing in this situation is that the OP feels trapped. You shouldn't feel trapped in your RP. No one has a right to dictate to you what you may and may not do in pixel happy fun times. It's RP. It's fake. It's fantasy. And anyone who would seek to control your fantasy time is probably not a good friend.
These demands are not something a friend should be making, and no one should have to tell the friend this. It's called basic adult behavior - we don't try to control our friends' leisure time, or any of their time, because that's creepy and obsessive.
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