(04-07-2016, 02:51 PM)Osena Rhen Wrote: So, what I'm hearing is that the two who just replied to me have never had any problems with their friends that they needed to resolve, or, they don't have any friends, because as soon as someone feels bad, they cut them off entirely that instant. Is that a correct understanding?
Of course it's not a correct understanding. Of course you both have friends, and of course your friends have sometimes done some bad stuff that you had to talk out with them. Please try not to encourage a behavior in others that is unlikely to correspond to behavior you do yourself.Â
You are hearing what you want to hear. None of my friends have ever told me where to go, what to do, or who to talk to--not real life friends, not online friends, not even my boyfriend. I've had a couple RP partners who have seemed clingy and manipulative even if unintentionally in more subtle ways, and made me feel smothered and trapped. In those situations, I've sent them strongly worded messages saying "this is what's been happening, and it's going to stop happening right now or we're done IC and OOC" and I immediately distanced myself from them OOC and took time to re-evaluate if the partnership was even worth keeping.
There are times I've gone in offline mode simply because I wasn't in the mood to talk to anyone, and there are times I've gone in offline mode or not logged in to something to avoid a specific person/people (always strangers or acquaintances, not close friends or RP partners). So yes, I'm saying your hypothetical situation of someone trying to control me, me politely talking to them about it, and them backing off because it was all a big misunderstanding and everything was 100% fine has never happened, largely because the moment someone tries to control me I tell them to take a hike, and because I don't surrounded myself with people who will try to manipulate me.
That being said, I haven't and never would advocate someone do something I couldn't/wouldn't do or haven't done.
tl;dr It's never happened to me; I don't take no crap.
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