(04-07-2016, 02:56 PM)LiadansWhisper Wrote: If someone other than my boyfriend attempted to control my RP and manipulate me into feeling guilty about RPing with other people, I would first give them a piece of my mind, and then kick them to the curb. Â Full stop.
Actually, if the boyfriend was doing that, I would probably give him an earful.
See, I've tried the cutesy, nice way, "Oh, maybe they're just confused and don't realize that trying to control other people's behavior is really creepy and wrong," but it's been a long road and I no longer have the patience or the willingness to put myself through that particular brand of suffering. Â No. Â If someone can't figure out on their own that guilt tripping people for RPing without them, and telling them that they can't RP with others is really creepy and not okay, they have problems I can't solve for them.
We've all had experiences with people who intentionally were abusive towards us. I've also had a ton of experiences with people who simply lacked self-awareness of the way their words could be taken by others and who, with discussion, were brought some clarity and were able to grow as a person and become better for it. Unfortunately, our society has become so PC that we feel it's not acceptable to offer others a criticism of their behavior, even if it's a constructive criticism. Parents don't even do that - everybody's kid is a perfect special snowflake and incapable of wrongdoing.Â
The only way a person who doesn't know any better will learn is if they're taught, and teaching requires patience and love for others even when those others are jerks. Cutting them off gives them no opportunity for growth. They still do not know that what they did was wrong or why it was wrong or how to do better, they will continue to believe it's okay and that you were just a mean/rude person to them for cutting them off - because if they understood why you cut them off, then they probably would've had enough self-awareness to have avoided the situation happening in the first place. All it accomplishes is that they go on to the next person and end up causing a problem for them, too.
And yep, sometimes you try to talk it out with somebody and it turns out that yeah, they really are just a crazy douche, and your time trying to talk it out has been for nothing. That's on them. You at least tried to do the compassionate and friendly thing.
Lydia Lightfoot ~ The Reliquarian's Guild «Relic» ~ Lavender Beds, Ward 12, #41
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This player has a sense of humor. If the content of the post suggests otherwise, please err on the side of amusement and friendship, because that's almost certainly the intent. We're all on the same team: Team Roleplayer! Have a smile, have a chuckle, and have a slice of pie. Isn't pie great?