(04-06-2016, 03:36 AM)Kattoki Wrote: In Character, my character loves her partner. However just as ooc I feel smothered ic she also feels smothered. What I mean is, ic I am a treasure hunter I enjoy going to the quicksand I have friends there and I just enjoy having a good time and a laugh there. IC my partner had a bad experience there so she rarely goes there, and only does come when I have gone there or am missing from my room. IC my partner then comes along and somewhat forces me to leave the place because she feels uncomfortable being there. IC I would say I am fine in Ul'dah, that I have experience living there and being in a place like that, but that doesnt stop them from coming and forcing me back.
Now I dont mind spending time with them, IC or OOC but I am restricted from seeing any other people or friends, or making new friends.
OOC, the often complain how they dont like the place. So the avoid it, but I am fine with going there and have told them that I am fine going there ic or ooc.
Are all your issues coming from when you want to visit the Quicksand and the other doesn't want to go there? It reads as if the two of you aren't able to spend a lot of time together RPing (different time zones, you don't spend too long in one game). Does the person tell you to spend most of your time together or is it stemming from how you like to spend time in Quicksand while the other doesn't?
If the partner is not actually telling you that you can't spend time with them there may be one issue and that it is possible that your IC married partner was wanting for an RP partner who they can develop long time RP. If you have limited time together and you spend half of it in a place that the other does not like to go, it will cause marriage issues. Marriage counseling may fix it (compromise on where you meet adventurers, Drowning Wench is another hub) or you have a case where you genuinely need to get out.
