This hands down sounds like an abusive relationship, and I would cut ties with this person. This sort of thing very rarely has a happy ending, and honestly, if you're actively avoiding the game and Skype and such to avoid this person, that is a HUGE RED FLAG.
People saying this is "situational" and "we're only getting one side of the story!" need to realize a really important point:
The OP's feelings are not invalid.Â
People suggesting she stay in this situation are basically suggesting she swallow her feelings and more or less deal with this person, because there may be a "reason" why they are clingy and controlling and manipulative. And make no mistake, that's what this person is doing. They are manipulating the OP into behaving the way they want her to.
She is not obligated to stay in a relationship she is unhappy in, IC or OOC, period.Â
Yes, her spouse's feelings are valid too, but the bottom line is, if the OP is actively avoiding the game and social networking stuff because of this person, and isn't "allowed" to make other friends or RP with other people, then that's not healthy. This is not a healthy relationship. It's dangerous. The spouse's feelings do not give them a right to control her like this.
I would suggest you pull them aside and flatly tell them you are direly unhappy and things need to change, and that from now on, you will be roleplaying in a manner that you enjoy, and talking to others, etc. If they can't handle this, then cut ties with the person immediately.Â
Honestly though, I've never seen these sorts of things work themselves out very well, and you'll probably have to severe ties with the person anyway.
I'm reasonably sure your attempts to talk to them will result in them either attempting to smother you in the worst guilt trip you have ever seen ("I don't have anyone else!" "Don't you care about me?" "I'll kill myself if you leave!"), or them swinging around the opposite way and becoming outright hostile and abusive, ("No one else will want to roleplay with you, your roleplay was garbage anyway!" "Your character is shitty, and you're lucky I even bothered to roleplay with you!" or "Fine, I'll fine other people to roleplay with who aren't awful to me!").
Either way, go in prepared. Take care of yourself. You have the right to enjoy your roleplay, and your game. This person is taking your enjoyment of these away, and they do not have the right to do that.
People saying this is "situational" and "we're only getting one side of the story!" need to realize a really important point:
The OP's feelings are not invalid.Â
People suggesting she stay in this situation are basically suggesting she swallow her feelings and more or less deal with this person, because there may be a "reason" why they are clingy and controlling and manipulative. And make no mistake, that's what this person is doing. They are manipulating the OP into behaving the way they want her to.
She is not obligated to stay in a relationship she is unhappy in, IC or OOC, period.Â
Yes, her spouse's feelings are valid too, but the bottom line is, if the OP is actively avoiding the game and social networking stuff because of this person, and isn't "allowed" to make other friends or RP with other people, then that's not healthy. This is not a healthy relationship. It's dangerous. The spouse's feelings do not give them a right to control her like this.
I would suggest you pull them aside and flatly tell them you are direly unhappy and things need to change, and that from now on, you will be roleplaying in a manner that you enjoy, and talking to others, etc. If they can't handle this, then cut ties with the person immediately.Â
Honestly though, I've never seen these sorts of things work themselves out very well, and you'll probably have to severe ties with the person anyway.
I'm reasonably sure your attempts to talk to them will result in them either attempting to smother you in the worst guilt trip you have ever seen ("I don't have anyone else!" "Don't you care about me?" "I'll kill myself if you leave!"), or them swinging around the opposite way and becoming outright hostile and abusive, ("No one else will want to roleplay with you, your roleplay was garbage anyway!" "Your character is shitty, and you're lucky I even bothered to roleplay with you!" or "Fine, I'll fine other people to roleplay with who aren't awful to me!").
Either way, go in prepared. Take care of yourself. You have the right to enjoy your roleplay, and your game. This person is taking your enjoyment of these away, and they do not have the right to do that.
The Dusk Wolves
