Sadly enough Balmung is THE RP server, so I fear to get a good experience of FFXIV RP, getting onto Balmung is a near must.
And thankfully for you, we rarely see regular normal peasants in FFXIV being roleplayed. As for lore adherence ect? We got folk in various degrees. Ones who stick completely to FFXIV lore, others who take their liberties, others who just don't care at all. So I wouldn't worry about that either.
In any case... FFXIV community is in general very much accepting of anything not straight. Even more so on Balmung. Being a person who falls under the non-straight folk, I never had the need to find myself a specific LS or FC for it, as no one really cares on Balmung what you, or your character identifies as. We are here to RP after all. Whereas you might get some comments IC at best, although with Ave swinging to whatever person she finds attractive, I never had any issues. However if your character only focuses onto getting into people's pants, you will get some offhand comments no doubt. And that comes from the RPer who lost count on how many lovers their char has.
And thankfully for you, we rarely see regular normal peasants in FFXIV being roleplayed. As for lore adherence ect? We got folk in various degrees. Ones who stick completely to FFXIV lore, others who take their liberties, others who just don't care at all. So I wouldn't worry about that either.
In any case... FFXIV community is in general very much accepting of anything not straight. Even more so on Balmung. Being a person who falls under the non-straight folk, I never had the need to find myself a specific LS or FC for it, as no one really cares on Balmung what you, or your character identifies as. We are here to RP after all. Whereas you might get some comments IC at best, although with Ave swinging to whatever person she finds attractive, I never had any issues. However if your character only focuses onto getting into people's pants, you will get some offhand comments no doubt. And that comes from the RPer who lost count on how many lovers their char has.