
I may be biased, but I think Balmung remains the main "go-to" RP server. It's a bit of a hodgepodge, so there are nice and not-so-nice folks around - forming nice and not-so-nice FCs and LSes... but there's enough folks around that you'll probably be able to find a group you mesh with if you look around enough. And I'm fairly certain there's plenty of both FCs and LSes that are LGBT-friendly.