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(10-19-2016, 12:16 PM)ExAtomos Wrote:(10-19-2016, 11:51 AM)Roderick Wrote: The problem that a lot of posters in this thread seem to be glancing over is that, as far as I've seen, no one has said "you can't do this". All I've seen is people with different tastes saying "you play what you want, you have every right", a few suggestions for following or bending the lore. Then a fair handful of people come in seemingly taking that as an attack..policing and witch hunts. As said in my first post, I don't see policing or witch hunts happening, nor do I expect them to start with this newfound information.
I don't think anyone will just state "You can't do that." We all know better than to say that. Problem is what actually happens on this site and has shown up at least a few times in this thread... folks will easily say "Oh sure, you can do that, but don't expect me (and sometimes 'anyone') to play with you if you do." Which is, in my opinion, actually more destructive to people's confidence.
Sometimes I feel like common sense gets dropped in rp. No matter that it's a pretend world, you're still dealing with people.
I read a lot of fantasy books. Do I expect everyone to want to talk about them with me? No.
I watch a lot of Asian romcoms. Do I expect everyone to want to watch them with me? No.
I like my food seasoned in certain ways. Do I expect everyone to enjoy eating that food that I so painstakingly made? No.
I enjoy going to the local teahouse more than any other place. Do I expect everyone to want to go with me? No.
It's perfectly fine to enjoy what you enjoy. But no matter what you do there will be people who will not want to do it with you. They deserve to have fun, just like you. And it's good to remind people of that before they have a hard time finding people to play with -- encouragement and forewarning can go a long way for longevity.
With any social activity, you have to work to find your place. You're never (or, at least, very, very rarely) going to walk in somewhere and have oodles of people clamoring for your time and attention right off the bat. It takes time to build connections, especially if you have an off the wall idea you'd need to pitch right to people to avoid alienating them. And really, knowing upfront that this or that idea might face resistance is, to me, far more helpful than a 'yeah, go for it!' that implies everyone and anyone would be happy to work with it.
Social situations can be alienating and cruel. RP can be especially so, considering that creative ideas tend to ... leave people vulnerable. I'd much rather arm with knowledge than give them no warning at all.
And that goes for dragoons or any other thing that people have passionate contentions or strong feelings about.