(11-17-2016, 01:02 PM)Gegenji Wrote: ... The latter is actually why I hesitate on asking folks for RP. I always feel the onus is on the asker to also provide a scene or situation, and if I'm lacking that then I feel weird asking someone to RP. It seems almost rude, in a "hey let's RP and YOU decide what we're doing" kind of way.
That's exactly true for me, too. If I'm asking for RP, I often feel like it's my obligation to have a purpose or driving force behind it. Otherwise I kinda flounder around, wanting to RP with someone but not having any idea what to do, and so I don't ask.
But Aya's right, flexibility is important, and you have to trust that since the other person wants to RP with you, you can both build a scene together!
(11-17-2016, 01:18 PM)Zhavi Wrote: It's an ic way to make contacts. For a while, a long, long while, I avoided anything that remotely looked like plotting or planning. And I'd go to the Quicksand, and sit at the bar, and just emote my character going about her business, slice of life style. And every time I did, she'd meet someone new, and out of that she got business opportunities and contacts who -- if I pursued -- I could have easily rolled into a plot. I've said it before, but just because you meet someone in a lull where there's no dragons being killed doesn't mean it has to remain that way. If anything, how a character acts in their day-to-day rounds can influence their character development. Besides which, sometimes a little slice-of-life can help a character process the dragon slaying or whatever big things are happening to them.
I've had the most enlightening chats with strangers, in the past. Sometimes I help them, sometimes they help me. There's no reason why it can't be the same in rp.
This is a very good way of thinking, and one that I don't do often enough. I guess it's because I'm on the fence about smalltalk RP. It can be hit and miss, and it so often devolves into awkwardness and 'well, gotta go', that I would rather make plans with a specific purpose in mind. (At least for certain characters, anyway.) But this definitely works for a lot of people and should be something to consider!
