(11-17-2016, 12:21 PM)Zhavi Wrote: I think that becomes an issue primarily when you want to rp with a specific person or group that is up to their eyeballs in plans and plots. It's the same thing that happens irl when you're friends with someone who's friends with a lot of people: your window of opportunity with them is incredibly small. So you either roll in with them (oh you're doing x on y day? I was thinking of going to that too, what would you think about going together? -- but also give them an easy out, since you don't want to make them feel like you're pressuring them) or you make plans far in the future and then give them a reason to seek you out.
But I mean, I do what I've always done, from Zhi to new characters: play with new players. Sometimes they'll bail, yes, but they're fresh and usually eager to rp. Go to places where people hang out like wallflowers and peel one of them off the wall. Go to mixer events where there is inevitably one or two people who showed alone or with a group and is having a hard time interacting with so many people.
It's the same problem as ever. Make your opportunities. Anyone can sit around saying "no one wants to hang out with me," but that's just the thing -- if you're just sitting there like a rock without a plan or set of ideas that sparks someone else's creativity, why would they want to hang out with you? Be proactive. If you're shy, you're gonna have to dip your toe in somewhere -- approach a FC or LS leader and let them know your circumstances and see if they have suggestions of members who might fit you. But at the end of the day, it's still the same ol' problem, just with a different window dressing.
This, basically. If you want to RP with someone who is often busy and stretched thin with their RP, it's going to be difficult to find time to align your schedules. I don't think any of this is an issue, really. You've just got to make your RP appealing and take the initiative to RP with others and create interesting opportunities to entice them into role-playing with you. With as many people we have in our figurative "RP market" here, you've got to make your "product" (aka your role-play) stand out compared to the rest. Give people a reason to RP with you rather than one of the other dozen people looking for RP at that moment.
Aside from that, I think people just need to stop painting the server's entire RP community in one stroke whenever an individual fails to respond to them, or says they're busy or don't want to RP, etc. Of course you'll run into people like that. You can't expect every person to be available to you all the time, and you sadly can't expect every person to be friendly and receptive to your RP (yes, even the people who for whatever have "walk-ups welcome" in their search info and then angrily rebuke every walk-up). These things happening isn't indicative of some culture plague on the server, it's just life and people being people. We don't need to sensationalize everything. I think the negativity, assumptions, and ultimately self-centered attitude of entitlement that everyone owes you RP that it can breed are more of an obstacle in finding enjoyable role-play on the server than anything else could ever be.
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