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(12-18-2016, 07:43 PM)Skae Wrote:(12-18-2016, 07:26 PM)Kilieit Wrote: Please read the reasoning people have stated for why they "ignore" people (this word suggests intent, which is a false assumption) at big events. It was stated quite clearly and repeatedly, by multiple posters.
Why do people go to big events instead of staying home, and then RP privately? Simple: change of scenery. It provides a backdrop for something a little different. And as Faye described, it allows the culmination of OOC connections into IC ones (different from cold-call walkups!) that won't occur if you just stay in your FC room and pretend you're at a gala.
If they deliberately turn off /say and /em (as some people say they do), then the ignoring is most certainly intentional - and quite rude in my book.
Are you really saying people go to big events just to use all the other player characters there as scenery backdrop?
No. Like, if I really didn't like this guy Nofriends Jones for some reason, and every time Nofriends Jones turned up to an RP event I muted /s and /em, then I'd be deliberately ignoring Nofriends Jones.
Oh, but wait, wouldn't I just blacklist Nofriends Jones if I wasn't interested in ever hearing from him?
Right.
Characterising the act of choosing which avenues to participate in as a deliberate and malicious act of exclusion is egregariously entitled. It's like saying that everyone who didn't show up to the gala (including me, btw) was deliberately excluding people from an opportunity to meet their character... ridiculous.
Even at public RP events, some people are not going to want to RP with you, and that is their choice. It's a perfectly reasonable and permissable choice.
Again, for the third time: maybe they're sick, tired, distracted, anxious. Maybe they dipped their feet in at the event but it's too much and they don't want to ask their friend to leave, but they can't really stomach the thought of meeting new people either, so they have a /p chat with their friend while their friend socialises more generally. Maybe they're hoping to catch someone they met OOC and have yet to make IC contact with, and they're worried if they start talking to someone else they'll miss the opportunity they've been looking forward to. Maybe they're getting a migraine and reading dozens of lines of text is making it worse, so they simplify their chatlog to make it easier on them for the time they have left before they need to go lie down in a dark room. Maybe their kid is sick and they need to be able to AFK at any given moment, but they still really like the ambience and seeing everyone around OOC even though they're not up for IC interactions right now. Maybe they're only really interested in watching the competition or stage events that are usually hosted at these things, and anyone else approaching them makes them lock up in fear of what the person wants from them.
All of these things, and more, could lead to someone """ignoring""" a walk-up. But NONE OF THESE THINGS ARE MALICIOUS. None of these things are personal. None of these things have anything to do with you. By assuming they do, you're thinking the worst of the community, when in actual fact we're all just people, trying to get by and enjoy a hobby.
TL;DR: What Aya said but longer.
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