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(12-18-2016, 08:53 PM)Terrin Wrote: They're not supporting anyone but they're small group if you're just RPing with them at a public event, and it is extremely silly to say that they're trying to keep the potential of unexpected interactions when they're avoiding the primary channels that allow it. A lot of people have various health/anxiety issues when trying to publicly RP, and I really do feel for them, but what about the person who also has severe social anxiety and is trying their hardest to RP just to be brushed off (at a public event no less)? That's as rude as hell, as well. Then they have people demonizing them by telling them that it's their own fault that they were ignored.
There are a million reasons on why someone could have missed something in /s or /sm, but there is missing something, then there is ignoring it by using a private channel to get away from it. People can say that they don't mean to be ignoring /s or /em, but that is what they are doing by using private channels.
As someone with actual experience in both things here, let me tell you:
A) As someone who has ran more public RP events than I can count in this game alone, people showing up is absolutely an act support for the event. Even if they only RP in /party all night, it's nice to see those characters there for the hosts and other attendees alike, and it's warming to know those people wanted to come (honestly it's even more flattering that they still want to be there even if the chatspam is obviously a hurdle for them).
Not to mention, if these people wanted to avoid any possibility of unplanned social interaction, they probably wouldn't have come to a public event. Just because they aren't watching /em and /s like a hawk to see every post that might be directed at them doesn't mean they aren't open to walk-ups. And even if they aren't? It's a public space (the event in question was in the middle of a city, not someone's FC house), others are allowed to RP there and they do not owe it to you to involve you. Someone is allowed their own priorities and preferences and no, that doesn't make them "rude," it makes them a person with their own rights and interests who is spending $15 to chillax and have fun here just like everyone else.
B) As a person who does have severe social anxiety (hi, yes, hello), I still understand that no one is obligated to approach me or respond to me and that I am not entitled to RP from anyone. I understand that I more than most people have to remind myself not to take out my frustrations and others and understand that they have their own problems and that the world does not revolve around me. I understand that every time I am unnoticed or ignored is not an intentional or malicious act, and that even when it is, I cannot and should not paint the entire community with a generality based on a few sparse interactions. I know that as a person who struggles with these things, I cannot let myself fall into a downward spiral of getting discouraged and pointing my finger at others.
In short, I have to manage, and I know that, and no one else is responsible if I fail in that. The people who take their RP to party so that they don't aggravate any conditions they might have and hurt themselves emotionally or physically, so they don't miss an RP event they would enjoy, so they don't blow up or bail on their friends? They're managing. The people who have a meltdown or fall into despair because someone does not reply to their post? They're not managing. That's the key difference here. And no, your "management" should not involve forcing anyone else to sacrifice theirs.
You want to know what's actually rude and unfair? Blaming people for accidentally missing a post from a total stranger in a spammy event and acting as if it's an act of malice and as if the world owes you its attention.
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