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(12-31-2016, 09:56 AM)Evaleigh Wrote:(12-31-2016, 09:43 AM)Virella Wrote: Â I do however seen people use it to promote their events; what I do think is a cool thing to do, and from what I've heard its quite successful.
I agree though it can be double-edged if it gets a lot of people you don't want (like non-Rpers) I do find it's an awesome way to be reminded about events. Â There's also a few Event linkshells that post reminders.
Emphasis mine.
Because I'm from a small RP community, and used to run events, and the only place there was to promote these events was the general realm forums or chat channels that were shared with PvE and PvP-focussed players, that meant there were always people at events who could be described as "non-RPers".
Know who those players are, in my decade-long experience, if you actually talk to them instead of dismissing them out of hand because they don't know the lore very well, were spamming fireworks off to the side instead of speaking, or because they've got a PvE guild tag?
People who haven't been introduced to RP yet but are obviously open to try because they're at an event. People who always wanted to try RP but aren't confident and wanted to watch without joining in to see if it's something they think they can do. People who tried to RP in the past but had a bad experience and swore off it but are considering seeing if the community's improved. People who thought it looked fun and wanted to join in, without doing any back-reading in terms of lore, not because of any maliciousness or laziness but simply because they just plain old didn't realise it was as involved as it is. And so on.
Griefers - who deliberately disrupt, often by spamming the chat with offensive filth and deliberately positioning themselves to ruin screenshots - are another thing, but call them what they are. Especially when you're positing "no one is obligated to roleplay with you" as a nasty statement of a toxic community and not what it is, which is a basic plea for empathy with others, whether they're ""popular"" or not (read this post and this post of mine if you don't understand where I'm coming from).
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There's a repeated failure here to identify the difference between "someone doing something I don't like because they're being deliberately malicious" and "someone doing something I don't like because of circumstances that are nothing to do with me or them".
That's what's toxic, by definition, because it creates conflict and resentment where there need not be any.
It's a paradigm that encourages resentment of people - as if they're doing things on purpose out of spite - for stuff they can't help, stuff they didn't realise was a problem, and stuff they can't reasonably be expected to fix.
You don't need to change the community to enjoy it. You need to change the paradigm you view it through.
I promised myself I wouldn't post in this thread again after Virella's post at the top of the page but look where it got me gods I'm doomed to endless forum argument purgatory
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