I see your point Kylin and yes, larger communities are more difficult to find that 'perfect place' Â This is why infrastructure like we have here is required. Â It's not entirely unlike trying to find a place to hang out when moving to a new major city in the real world.
There's a certain balance needed between actually having a choice and choice paralysis. Â The latter I believe is what you are describing. Â I actually suffer from the latter. Â I'm not (and haven't ever been) in an RP FC Â (or even a real FC on Balmung, everyone in my FC is my and my spouses alts). Â Just can't sort out where I'd actually fit in despite the number of opportunities available.
As far as people leaving, there is always churn, and that is something that does concern me about the lock. Â Even assuming the (non existent) perfectly functioning community, there are always players that move out of it due to various reasons (work, new game, new RL constraints, social issues, death, etc), while it's been noticed (FC events going away, taverns being delisted) I've kind of come to expect this in any community. Â We're a bit far from perfect due to the simple nature of being human.
Maybe this behooves us, as a community, to get the previously mentioned mentoring program going again. Â
Maybe we need a better searchable FC / LS list to assist people in finding what they need beyond the simple "Making Connections" forum here. Â Perhaps something on the official forums as well?
Perhaps someone will step up and start any of those initiatives? Â If so, regardless of the lock persisting the community will be in a better place.
There's a certain balance needed between actually having a choice and choice paralysis. Â The latter I believe is what you are describing. Â I actually suffer from the latter. Â I'm not (and haven't ever been) in an RP FC Â (or even a real FC on Balmung, everyone in my FC is my and my spouses alts). Â Just can't sort out where I'd actually fit in despite the number of opportunities available.
As far as people leaving, there is always churn, and that is something that does concern me about the lock. Â Even assuming the (non existent) perfectly functioning community, there are always players that move out of it due to various reasons (work, new game, new RL constraints, social issues, death, etc), while it's been noticed (FC events going away, taverns being delisted) I've kind of come to expect this in any community. Â We're a bit far from perfect due to the simple nature of being human.
Maybe this behooves us, as a community, to get the previously mentioned mentoring program going again. Â
Maybe we need a better searchable FC / LS list to assist people in finding what they need beyond the simple "Making Connections" forum here. Â Perhaps something on the official forums as well?
Perhaps someone will step up and start any of those initiatives? Â If so, regardless of the lock persisting the community will be in a better place.
