^^^^^ That.
I see RPing as more 'reality in another world' than 'playacting on a stage'.
I like being faced with reality and consequences for my character's actions and/or mistakes. I... honestly.... get annoyed if my character makes some big faux pas- and it's just brushed aside. I... -want- to get into trouble, I -want- to own up to my screw ups. I WANT confrontation if I deserve it.Â
But people are (globally) afraid of OOC offending folks. Because sooo many people cannot find that line between IC and OOC. Because of that, I am a picky RPer. I need to know and trust those I will RP with OOC to be decent folks that understand who I am OOC- and not get all ticked and offended if my character is a jerk IC... and vice versa.
Especially since I'm not opposed to more violent or mature RP situations.
If I know *you* are a cool person OOC and can keep the IC separate from the OOC and communicate well? Well... I feel I can just cut loose and throw junk your way for you to parry or throw back at me. I can be an IC jerk... or do things that my OOC self would go "OMG... no way!" and both *you* and I can laugh behind the screen and enjoy the mess the characters have gotten themselves into.
Yeah... RL sucks sometimes- but sometimes, the best way to *deal* with the RL crap is to RP it out in a "safe" way. SAY what you want to say to the person that's stressing you, DO what you want (that you maybe can't IRL) to vent out that frustration/pain/anger/etc. This is a legit psychological therapy (called *wait for it* ROLEPLAY therapy!). So yah... some of us want to escape the Real World and live in Happy Land (not said to be insulting, just a classification) to deal with our issues (you create a Safe Place in which to 'live'- also a legit stress management, psychological technique- especially people that deal with abuse wherein the 'drama' that some RP entails can trigger very RL feelings).
Whereas others of us want to live in "Conflict" and "Risk"... to get our thrills. Even if we are in crappy situations IRL- online we can work it out and end up calmer and less stressed.
No one way is right. We are all unique in our thoughts, feelings and stress management techniques, and what we enjoy. We just need to find those that we mesh best with.
I see RPing as more 'reality in another world' than 'playacting on a stage'.
I like being faced with reality and consequences for my character's actions and/or mistakes. I... honestly.... get annoyed if my character makes some big faux pas- and it's just brushed aside. I... -want- to get into trouble, I -want- to own up to my screw ups. I WANT confrontation if I deserve it.Â
But people are (globally) afraid of OOC offending folks. Because sooo many people cannot find that line between IC and OOC. Because of that, I am a picky RPer. I need to know and trust those I will RP with OOC to be decent folks that understand who I am OOC- and not get all ticked and offended if my character is a jerk IC... and vice versa.
Especially since I'm not opposed to more violent or mature RP situations.
If I know *you* are a cool person OOC and can keep the IC separate from the OOC and communicate well? Well... I feel I can just cut loose and throw junk your way for you to parry or throw back at me. I can be an IC jerk... or do things that my OOC self would go "OMG... no way!" and both *you* and I can laugh behind the screen and enjoy the mess the characters have gotten themselves into.
Yeah... RL sucks sometimes- but sometimes, the best way to *deal* with the RL crap is to RP it out in a "safe" way. SAY what you want to say to the person that's stressing you, DO what you want (that you maybe can't IRL) to vent out that frustration/pain/anger/etc. This is a legit psychological therapy (called *wait for it* ROLEPLAY therapy!). So yah... some of us want to escape the Real World and live in Happy Land (not said to be insulting, just a classification) to deal with our issues (you create a Safe Place in which to 'live'- also a legit stress management, psychological technique- especially people that deal with abuse wherein the 'drama' that some RP entails can trigger very RL feelings).
Whereas others of us want to live in "Conflict" and "Risk"... to get our thrills. Even if we are in crappy situations IRL- online we can work it out and end up calmer and less stressed.
No one way is right. We are all unique in our thoughts, feelings and stress management techniques, and what we enjoy. We just need to find those that we mesh best with.
