(08-22-2013, 06:56 PM)Rhostel Wrote: I really hope this works out for you.Personally, I'm still trying to figure it out for myself as well.
As long as people are confessing, I'm not really cis- nor fully trans-. Actually, I've never really been able to nail down a gender identity I feel comfortable with. I'm aware of the various other options people have determined, but I feel like I fall outside all of them.
Admittedly, the main reason I don't feel genderfluid is that I'm too apathetic to act on any such impulse.
While I was born in SoCal, I grew up in Salt Lake City, Utah - we moved there when I was 4. It was not the ideal place for a lot of things, from figuring out my sexuality to religion to a host of other things. Back then, it was not as progressive as it is now (which is sort of frightening, in a way); the dominant religion was about 75% of the valley, with mostly (at the time) mainstream Christianity making up about 20% of the valley. Anything that went against those sort of ideals was rather repressed.
Even after moving back to SoCal (liberal San Diego), those things were still largely in flux, mostly due to the fact that I didn't really have time to put a lot of thought into it. A lot of sexuality types and gender identities were still being defined then, more so than they are now.
I've figured out that sexually, I prefer women to men. I've figured out that I can have intimate relationships with either gender. I'm more attracted to intelligence and personality than gender or form. I suppose in that regard I'm some mixture of a lesbian, a pansexual, and a sapiosexual.
Gender wise, I believe that despite my extremely female form, I'm somewhere between androgyne or bigender. For a very long time, I was called a "tomboy", but I never felt that I was just wholly male; as a teen, I could dress up as girly and elegantly as the best of them, but I never felt just wholly female. I eventually ended up creating a set specific male characters to help express some of it through RP and gaming. I suppose I'm bigender with androgyne tendencies or an androgyne with bigender tendencies?
Boxes are hard.
Anyway, the study of gender is becoming a bigger and bigger thing in both the medical and psychological world. The wiki at that link is a start for collecting such information into one place, and presents both Western, Eastern, and Non-Standard gender information. I'm hoping to see it grow, or for more places with easily accessible information on the full spectrum to surface.
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