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I find this rather interesting and confusing as in other communities I have seen it the other way around. I really cannot give input into this as I haven't played female characters. Many others above me have given good reasonings however that I could see being very valid aspects in the community.
People don't want to roleplay with quiet bookish characters, or characters who are more neutral with their emotions. People want a character who over-reacts or is vibrant about X, Y, Z.
Unless there is a close OOC relationship first that leads into it, I have only really roleplayed well with this kind of character before (Dieuvont) because we knew each other from GW2 before coming here. I tried to play a more reserved character in the beginning (Nahv'ir) and ended up changing over to Shae'ra because it was very hard to interact with others. As Lament mentioned, it's harder to roleplay with these type characters because the person has to want to know more enough to stick around and poke and pride. It can be hard when you feel like you are leading everything, however, characters of this type can do really well once they learn to help carry things along. (Example: Just answering questions and nothing more cuts off whereas answering then questioning or answering then bringing up more information to go off of is helping to carry the RP)
If I offer to help it is instantly pushed aside for someone.
I think here it depends what kind of help. Are you purposing to heal someone? I am personally not a fan of total healing (as IC actions = IC consequences to me ) If my character gets hurt, he has to live with it and deal with it: so I will dismiss healing assistance. Also, some people don't want help if they think that they're going to be replaced in the roleplay scenario. I think here it depends on the person and what kind of help is being offered.
If I set up plot, it is put aside for other rp with other people.
As someone who comes up with plots to run, I know this can be annoying at times. But I find it's best to hook up on skype and run a detailed plot (this is for plots that are like stories. I have one plot I ran with 3 others that I put into word processor afterward and turned out to be 36 pages long, single spaced.) This way you can roleplay over the course of a few days and deem it as something that doesn't happen until the roleplay ends. This way, any roleplay during when the plot is going isn't effected by the plot (injuries, knowledge, etc).
Even after introducing myself and roleplaying for a few good hours, I wont be contacted again for further roleplay - by anyone.
It happens. It takes a while and several times of roleplaying to get into where people call back upon you. Most people call upon guild mates (fc mates) first before newer people that they have met unless they have a 'need' for you.
I've trialed runnng a few plots for myself and others to get involved with such as:
- IC Dungeons runs for 'research' or adventuring purposes.
- A plot dealing with poachers and chocobo chick thieves.
- Researching Leviathan.
Take to mind that not everyone can really do IC dungeon runs. Unfortunately, I am one of them. I am no good at one-liners or quick typing (I like my details) and IC dungeons are quick, fast paced and there is little actual roleplay going on - specially since, as Val mentioned, the timers are eating away on the side before you get kicked.
I think you have good ideas for things, just might not be finding the right people thus far for them. Perhaps making a listing of the plot, say the Researching Leviathan one, you could get people who are interested on the forums and then work a way into the game. Example: Say 5 people are interested in it, then have it be that they found out about the task from a (npc) boy/girl who was going around asking questions about Leviathan, when they mentioned that they were trying to do research, said NPC could ask if the RPer's character wanted to help on the research - then there. Just make sure to include server and available times. So you don't have people who can never log in at the same time due to timezones.
Is there anything people can tell me that wont mean I have to rewrite my Keeper male?
All I can say is to keep at it and find a LS to build up connections in. It takes a while to build them up, but it's do-able. I would only rewrite your character if you personally desire it, like I needed to redo Nahv'ir into Shae'ra because I wasn't enjoying Nahv'ir's style anyway. Don't change your character for other people otherwise you might not even enjoy the RP you get if you don't like roleplaying the character.