Ladies and Gentlespoons!
I love this thread, thank you, C'Kayah!
Think about the social dynamics, folks. We've all admitted that sex is a definitive motivator to many goals IRL and that transfers over to RP. RP mimics a "life", after all. Also remember though what happens when sex is put on the social table. Women become sluts. Men become cocks (prancing, I mean.) Just like some have said about worrying that passerbys will say "ZOMG, they're ERPing!" is the same social concern as doing your girlfriend or boyfriend in a public bathroom. It's just gotten out of hand cause we've all had to face it instead of socially avoid it. Your friends can look the other way and politely ignore the disheveled clothing, the afterglow, and the tousled hair.....but what if they didn't and all went "OOOoooooOOOooOOOOoooooOOOoo!" when you two walked out of the loo?
And that's what it is, social avoidance. If our inside voices were on the outside IRL, everyone would be terrified of getting near each other out of fear of stigmatism. Imagine, if you will, knowing that a move or choice you make can and will be publicly scrutinized by a forum of your peers. Scary thought unless you're part of the few who stand up and say "I regret nothing".Â
It's been established that ERP isn't wrong or right, it's a choice. Demonizing it isn't particularly -fair-, but that is also a choice. Advertising for it? That's buckshot full of rocksalt, it may not hit everyone but those it stings are gonna be pretty annoyed.Â
R'mah insinuated that it was for ERP then tried to take it back, bad form ol' girl. Own it and move on. I openly expressed issue with it when she broadcasted to our FC (at the time, I'm no longer with the harbingers) for miqo'te women to "entertain" a nunh too. To me, it's just crude. That's my opinion though.
So is there a fix? Nope. The cat is out of the bag already and she ain't going back in, so to speak. Unless folks let go, respect each other, and just chillax? We'll have this conversation again soon enough.
- Black Hat
I love this thread, thank you, C'Kayah!
Think about the social dynamics, folks. We've all admitted that sex is a definitive motivator to many goals IRL and that transfers over to RP. RP mimics a "life", after all. Also remember though what happens when sex is put on the social table. Women become sluts. Men become cocks (prancing, I mean.) Just like some have said about worrying that passerbys will say "ZOMG, they're ERPing!" is the same social concern as doing your girlfriend or boyfriend in a public bathroom. It's just gotten out of hand cause we've all had to face it instead of socially avoid it. Your friends can look the other way and politely ignore the disheveled clothing, the afterglow, and the tousled hair.....but what if they didn't and all went "OOOoooooOOOooOOOOoooooOOOoo!" when you two walked out of the loo?
And that's what it is, social avoidance. If our inside voices were on the outside IRL, everyone would be terrified of getting near each other out of fear of stigmatism. Imagine, if you will, knowing that a move or choice you make can and will be publicly scrutinized by a forum of your peers. Scary thought unless you're part of the few who stand up and say "I regret nothing".Â
It's been established that ERP isn't wrong or right, it's a choice. Demonizing it isn't particularly -fair-, but that is also a choice. Advertising for it? That's buckshot full of rocksalt, it may not hit everyone but those it stings are gonna be pretty annoyed.Â
R'mah insinuated that it was for ERP then tried to take it back, bad form ol' girl. Own it and move on. I openly expressed issue with it when she broadcasted to our FC (at the time, I'm no longer with the harbingers) for miqo'te women to "entertain" a nunh too. To me, it's just crude. That's my opinion though.
So is there a fix? Nope. The cat is out of the bag already and she ain't going back in, so to speak. Unless folks let go, respect each other, and just chillax? We'll have this conversation again soon enough.
- Black Hat
What a colossal waste of time and energy.
