I can understand your desire to not rock the boat, but at the same time you're setting yourself up to have problems finding RP if you act that way. Here's why.
Even on a RP server (and Balmung is not an official RP server, mind you), roleplayers are a minority. I haven't seen any statistics, but I'd guess that I've never seen more than about 10% of a RP server's population be RPers. In the case of Balmung, its probably far less.
In other words, less (far less) than 10% of the players you see are RPers. So how do RPers end up RPing with one another? They inspect one another and look for RP tags. They look up people that they know are RPers from other places (i.e.: "I saw you on RPC..."). They look for people who are actively roleplaying. They look for 'tells' that indicate someone is a roleplayer (like, say, walking instead of running). And when they identify someone who may be a roleplayer, they send them a tell.
It's hard, I know, if you're shy to just message someone cold, but the alternative is grim. If you don't reach out, then you end up looking just like all the rest of that majority of players who aren't roleplayers, and we know how that turns out.
If you're worried about messaging someone from out of the blue, I can assure you that it works. I tend to message people a lot - if I'm standing around and someone walks by, I'll message them. I'll message random people with RP tags. I may not RP with them right away, but at the very least we'll introduce ourselves OOCly. I've made a lot of RP connections that way, and I have literally never had anyone say "Go away, jerk! I don't want you to message me!". The worst - and I mean worst - response I'll get is "Sorry, I'm in the middle of something right now".
So give it a shot. Set yourself a goal, say, of cold messaging one potential roleplayer every time you're in game. Pretty soon, you should have a friend list full of people to RP with.
Even on a RP server (and Balmung is not an official RP server, mind you), roleplayers are a minority. I haven't seen any statistics, but I'd guess that I've never seen more than about 10% of a RP server's population be RPers. In the case of Balmung, its probably far less.
In other words, less (far less) than 10% of the players you see are RPers. So how do RPers end up RPing with one another? They inspect one another and look for RP tags. They look up people that they know are RPers from other places (i.e.: "I saw you on RPC..."). They look for people who are actively roleplaying. They look for 'tells' that indicate someone is a roleplayer (like, say, walking instead of running). And when they identify someone who may be a roleplayer, they send them a tell.
It's hard, I know, if you're shy to just message someone cold, but the alternative is grim. If you don't reach out, then you end up looking just like all the rest of that majority of players who aren't roleplayers, and we know how that turns out.
If you're worried about messaging someone from out of the blue, I can assure you that it works. I tend to message people a lot - if I'm standing around and someone walks by, I'll message them. I'll message random people with RP tags. I may not RP with them right away, but at the very least we'll introduce ourselves OOCly. I've made a lot of RP connections that way, and I have literally never had anyone say "Go away, jerk! I don't want you to message me!". The worst - and I mean worst - response I'll get is "Sorry, I'm in the middle of something right now".
So give it a shot. Set yourself a goal, say, of cold messaging one potential roleplayer every time you're in game. Pretty soon, you should have a friend list full of people to RP with.
