If you consider yourself a stickler for the lore, then you sort of have to take the Lightning/Shantotto events as they are and consider dimension-hopping canon. Otherwise you're just picking and choosing what you like and don't like.
As for the rarity of male miqo'te - I tend to go with everyone else in the "Calamity forced all the male miqo' out of hiding" option, but it also isn't something I think about too often because I feel like it was just a lack of forethought on SE's part.
I mean, the lore also states that miqo'te as a whole are supposed to be sort of 'few in number' in Eorzea, but it definitely doesn't feel that way most of the time. <_<;a
As for the rarity of male miqo'te - I tend to go with everyone else in the "Calamity forced all the male miqo' out of hiding" option, but it also isn't something I think about too often because I feel like it was just a lack of forethought on SE's part.
I mean, the lore also states that miqo'te as a whole are supposed to be sort of 'few in number' in Eorzea, but it definitely doesn't feel that way most of the time. <_<;a