Hi Rinette, thanks for the reply:
I do have a tendency to make problems larger than they seem (for example, a group of people was unimpressed with my reaction to something that happened in an RP, but understanding after I had a long talk with them. They moved past it, but I partially did not, and we didn't really end up doing anything afterward.Â
I was one of the lucky few who were able to get on Balmung in the second day of early access. For the first few months, I was fine. Things were great because I was talking to a lot of people from the forums, I'd found an FC a month before launch, and RP was looking up. I had kind of adopted the personality of my character for my forum posts and IC chat, which meant that I was able to politely defuse most bad situations or prevent them from happening in the first place.
Unfortunately, one of the things that really aggravates my "issues" happens to be large numbers of people. I am of the sort that can happily talk to one close friend (or even two at the same time, if I'm really comfortable) for hours, and I have no problem fielding tells from multiple people as long as it's two separate conversations and not a group conversation.Â
But, random OOC chatter/smalltalk, like you might find in an FC or large LS tends to get on my nerves. The best way to explain it is that I find it very distracting, and I don't know how to contribute or react to it, especially if it's silly, lewd, or even a debate--and the more people are involved, the harder it is. I have troubles with improvising in RP too, so I wind up being reclusive, even if my characters shouldn't be, and I'm ineffectual if put on the spot.
I was alright with my FC for the first while because there was only four to six of us, and I got to know the other people through lots of slow interaction and gentle chat in both channels. As the game continued though, we started getting more members, and reaching out to other entire guilds. It's impossible and impractical for me to go 'door to door' or tell to tell, trying to get comfortable with so many people. I don't have the time nor the 'space' for it, and oftentimes any events with big groups (larger than three or so) would cause me to be silent and bored, or to make excuses and leave. I could hardly read the chat sometimes.
Add to that that I started having differences of opinion with a few people; my inability to deal with their personalities or however you might call it meant that the measured facade I had been using got cracked. I never completely lost my temper, but I just shirked instead and became neurotic.
I would really like to have either a large group of unconnected or paired individuals, or a regular group of three to four other people, to RP with. But even the small guilds on the game tend to have fifteen to twenty members, and that's a lot to me.
I tried making an LS with my own preferences, which are, I'd suppose, a bit unorthodox, but I didn't advertise it first. The LS got one other person interested, and we spoke once--I actually tried to contact this person again, but nothing. Other than that, the LS died off--and was purged from the hall when the LSes were cleaned up a few months ago.
I would be open to meeting you in game or RPing/talking via PM. Skype's also an option. I have my own lore and worlds unrelated to FFXIV and I've used Skype as a platform to host two person campaigns with them (although I can probably do Eorzea too.)
I do have a tendency to make problems larger than they seem (for example, a group of people was unimpressed with my reaction to something that happened in an RP, but understanding after I had a long talk with them. They moved past it, but I partially did not, and we didn't really end up doing anything afterward.Â
I was one of the lucky few who were able to get on Balmung in the second day of early access. For the first few months, I was fine. Things were great because I was talking to a lot of people from the forums, I'd found an FC a month before launch, and RP was looking up. I had kind of adopted the personality of my character for my forum posts and IC chat, which meant that I was able to politely defuse most bad situations or prevent them from happening in the first place.
Unfortunately, one of the things that really aggravates my "issues" happens to be large numbers of people. I am of the sort that can happily talk to one close friend (or even two at the same time, if I'm really comfortable) for hours, and I have no problem fielding tells from multiple people as long as it's two separate conversations and not a group conversation.Â
But, random OOC chatter/smalltalk, like you might find in an FC or large LS tends to get on my nerves. The best way to explain it is that I find it very distracting, and I don't know how to contribute or react to it, especially if it's silly, lewd, or even a debate--and the more people are involved, the harder it is. I have troubles with improvising in RP too, so I wind up being reclusive, even if my characters shouldn't be, and I'm ineffectual if put on the spot.
I was alright with my FC for the first while because there was only four to six of us, and I got to know the other people through lots of slow interaction and gentle chat in both channels. As the game continued though, we started getting more members, and reaching out to other entire guilds. It's impossible and impractical for me to go 'door to door' or tell to tell, trying to get comfortable with so many people. I don't have the time nor the 'space' for it, and oftentimes any events with big groups (larger than three or so) would cause me to be silent and bored, or to make excuses and leave. I could hardly read the chat sometimes.
Add to that that I started having differences of opinion with a few people; my inability to deal with their personalities or however you might call it meant that the measured facade I had been using got cracked. I never completely lost my temper, but I just shirked instead and became neurotic.
I would really like to have either a large group of unconnected or paired individuals, or a regular group of three to four other people, to RP with. But even the small guilds on the game tend to have fifteen to twenty members, and that's a lot to me.
I tried making an LS with my own preferences, which are, I'd suppose, a bit unorthodox, but I didn't advertise it first. The LS got one other person interested, and we spoke once--I actually tried to contact this person again, but nothing. Other than that, the LS died off--and was purged from the hall when the LSes were cleaned up a few months ago.
I would be open to meeting you in game or RPing/talking via PM. Skype's also an option. I have my own lore and worlds unrelated to FFXIV and I've used Skype as a platform to host two person campaigns with them (although I can probably do Eorzea too.)
