(07-18-2014, 02:05 AM)Aerghwab Wrote: "Naturally," at least in the context I meant it, means actually meeting a character through RP, getting a feel for their character, becoming acquainted and then seeing where the story takes them. Obviously people have to "click" OOC for it to work, and of course it's going to be driven in part by whether or not you like the potential IC partner's writing style and so on and so forth. I don't think that's an issue.
I did say the point was a pedantic one, but I have known people who took the philosophy of IC over all to place themselves into some very unpleasant romantic situations in which they, on an OOC level, were having no fun, yet felt compelled to continue out of the sense that the IC connection was more "natural." So perhaps it's not as much an obvious matter as one might think.
Quote:However, when I say I prefer any of my character's romances not to be "pushed," I mean literally. Example: not too long ago a friend of mine, almost as soon as she joined this forum and created a wiki page for her character, received a PM out of the blue asking if she'd like to roleplay a relationship with the sender. Just like that. Harmless? Maybe. Maybe not. But for me, personally, that's not the type of flow I would like to have for an IC partnership, and is a behavior of which I am highly suspicious.Â
I may be fairly new to RP here on FFXIV, but overall I've been at this for a long time - close to 20 years counting all the MUDs I roleplayed on in my teens - and I guess you could say I'm fairly set in my ways by now. There are just certain things I avoid based upon those past experiences; OOC pre-planning of that sort happens to be one of 'em.
This gets more into the issue of whether RP in general should happen spontaneously or if OOC communication in the form of pre-planning is a more desirable goal. I can't really say I have a clear answer for that beyond "sometimes." I can say, however, that for as much as suspicion may be warranted based on what you described above, that's because of the element of the request coming from a stranger, not that there was an OOC request at all.
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