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**Unnamed Mercenary** · **11-17-2017, 08:20 PM**

Topics like this one are tricky, because it honestly boils down to personal experiences.

And what might work for some people does not mean it will work well for others. Especially when player personality, RP preferences, timezones, venues, etc are taken into play. There are just too many variables to give a complete image without focusing on a handful and dismissing the rest.

But at the same time, there are a LOT of people RPing in this game. Finding a match for a person or group of people may just not be immediate. Or may result in having to reach out a lot to see which people mesh best.

Knight Kat · **11-17-2017, 10:38 PM**

Many have already stated that this is a situation where personal experiences differ. Mine certainly differ from the OP's. There are indeed a lot of variables.

That said, I have been in the community since January of 2014. I've watched it change, develop and change again. Maybe I can offer some general advice that might apply more broadly to those having a hard time.

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Firstly, when your style is to actively approach others for walk-up RP, you are a brave soul, and should consider your chances of finding good RP a coin flip. This is not me discouraging people from approaching others. I am just saying there are cliques, plots and preferences held by other players which may cause them to be not so welcoming to walk-ups.

Read search info of characters because many players will specify "walk-ups welcome" or "please send tell for RP". Let that be your guide on who you approach, and how you approach. It will result in less rejection and grief.

Secondly, if you are more the type to prefer being approached, there are things you can do to encourage that. For example, putting key details about your character in your search info. Mine on Kiht says "Traditional Moon-Keeper. Hunter, Scout, Beastmaster. RP=IC".

Another thing to do is make idle RP posts that tell other RPers around you that you are currently willing and able to RP. Bigger posts are more likely to be seen, but also add to chat scroll which may cause players to skim them rather than read them. Good thing to keep in mind.

I often prefer being approached because when other players approach me for RP, it is far less likely that they are doing it just to grief me, much more likely they have interest in my character and a heavily reduced chance of rejection. And no, I am not talking about ERP interests, but that risk comes with the territory.

If you're afraid of one player having their character approach yours because they want their character to bang yours, you will find yourself very afraid of casual RP in general. This is one area in which I advise players to grow a thicker skin. There's the ability to say "no", the blacklist and doing things like putting "NO ERP" in your search info.

Thirdly, this site has the "welcome desk" and the "making connections" forum. Look through them. Players posting ads to make connections are not likely going to grief you for trying to RP with them; especially if you are looking for the same things they are.

Sending tells or PMs to reach out to people can be the hardest things to muster courage for, but I've done it a few times, and usually it pays off!

Lastly, for those that do this, stop changing your character's race and story to suit what you think players want. You will find -no- consensus on what the community as a whole thinks is awesome.

Seriously, it has been said before, and it is one thing that is not subjective: play what race and profession you love, and others will come to like them.

Be very patient, be bold and don't fixate on what the horrible minority do or say.

chatterbox · **12-27-2017, 06:31 PM**

Stand your ground, you should care less about the issues they fabricate than they do.

If they get snarky about your race, get snarky back. It's only as true as you make it. If someone tries to force you into a fight, tell them no OOCLy. If they try to force you further, then just god mode willy-nilly until they rage quit, and if they try to hold it against you point out that you didn't want to fight. Who care about the op ions of such people.

Neneso Neso · **12-27-2017, 09:24 PM**

I'm sorry you had to suffer that side of the community. If you ever want to rp, however, I'm always up for it.

I have a small company focused on giving homes to those who need it, regardless of circumstances.

https://amberalyssumrp.enjin.com/

My character is an Ala Mhigan Monk, and loves to help people, and is always a friendly face: https://wiki.ffxiv-roleplayers.com/pages/Neneso_Neso

My discord is The Laladome#8597

All I ask is you give us a chance to show you how roleplay is meant to be. Thumbsup

Take care of yourself.

Faye · **12-27-2017, 09:31 PM**

(11-11-2017, 12:30 AM)Caspar Wrote:
(11-09-2017, 09:02 PM)RavieRaptor Wrote: -snip-
I may be wrong, but I believe these aren't the same RP characters from 2.0, no? I think you've changed characters many times...

I think there's a lot more that goes into it than what race someone is or isn't playing. Nothing is that isolated, and there is a lot more that goes into how others will perceive you and treat you. Ravie is a good example as she has indeed changed characters and namechanged/fantasia'd several times. I can speak with the personal experience and say that it's tiring.

I can't always keep track of namechanges and remember who someone is. It can be annoying trying to figure out with each change whether a character's name/appearance has spontaneously changed for IC reasons that my character should react to, or if it's an OOC "pretend it was always that way" retcon that I need to ignore IC, or if they've rerolled a new RP character entirely and they are a strange to my character now. I hate having to ask for clarification every time and remember the details. It's disheartening to have RP retconned and thrown away. I don't want to put time into more RP that may just be scrapped or put effort into a friendship with someone who may be flaky or discourteous to the people around them. I will also wonder why someone is fantasia'ing and namechanging so much. Maybe they just can't settle on a concept, or maybe they have expectations too high, or maybe they're running from something or someone?

So I will plainly admit that yes, I will not go out of my way to RP with anyone who changes character concepts frequently nor will I be part of planning any extensive RP plots with them.

(11-11-2017, 06:08 AM)Mermaid Wrote: This what I don't understand. Why are your characters' sexual orientations so significant? I don't understand what the problem is unless you're specifically looking for romance? ...

I've RPed here a lot and can safely say that yes it can be a problem, and it's typically more a problem if you're not looking for romance. In my few years playing a straight female Midlander, I have found that 1) a lot of straight male characters and their players are looking for romance/sex/ERP and will bail when they realize that's not going to happen with your character, 2) a lot of gay male characters will not give most female characters (especially straight ones) the time of day, 3) a lot of people playing lesbians will either avoid your character if they know she's straight or will try to "seduce" her anyway even despite any obvious IC discomfort or lack of interest, and 4) a lot of fellow straight female characters will not pay much to mind to your character in RP (unless it's to fight over a male character, which also often ends up bleeding OOC). These are obviously generalizations, and there are a ton of characters and role-players who break these stereotypes. But it can totally be discouraging to try to find those people by wading through all the ones who do play into the unfortunate stereotypes.

That being said, though, and more onto the main topic... OP seems to have gone but to anyone feeling similarly: There are plenty of great role-players out there and yes, fortunately searching for them will inevitably lead you to finding some bad eggs instead. Take it in stride, move on, and keep looking. Someone not liking the race you play is not the end of the world. Ignore it and avoid those individuals. There is no single character concept or race that everyone will enjoy, so play what you enjoy and you'll find plenty of others who like your character, too. Every single race attracts different sort of complaints and/or creeps, unfortunately, so trying to find the *perfect* race is a losing battle. I also haven't seen a lot of hate toward the races that's particularly serious or vitriolic, so I'd recommend taking anything with a grain of salt and considering that maybe there's meant to be some humor behind it rather than malice.

Mermaid · **12-28-2017, 01:42 AM**

(12-27-2017, 09:31 PM)Faye Wrote: I've RPed here a lot and can safely say that yes it can be a problem, and it's typically more a problem if you're not looking for romance. In my few years playing a straight female Midlander, I have found that 1) a lot of straight male characters and their players are looking for romance/sex/ERP and will bail when they realize that's not going to happen with your character, 2) a lot of gay male characters will not give most female characters (especially straight ones) the time of day, 3) a lot of people playing lesbians will either avoid your character if they know she's straight or will try to "seduce" her anyway even despite any obvious IC discomfort or lack of interest, and 4) a lot of fellow straight female characters will not pay much to mind to your character in RP (unless it's to fight over a male character, which also often ends up bleeding OOC). These are obviously generalizations, and there are a ton of characters and role-players who break these stereotypes. But it can totally be discouraging to try to find those people by wading through all the ones who do play into the unfortunate stereotypes.

Ugh, I guess that's fair. I've been doing too many tabletop RPGs honestly and nobody there seems to care 95% of the time. Characters getting along and having fun moments always seems to be the priority.

Faye · **12-28-2017, 07:06 PM**

(12-28-2017, 01:42 AM)Mermaid Wrote: Ugh, I guess that's fair. I've been doing too many tabletop RPGs honestly and nobody there seems to care 95% of the time. Characters getting along and having fun moments always seems to be the priority.

Tabletop tends to be less sex/romance focused than a lot of online RP--probably due to the combination of both having more of a defined objective for the characters, as well as the awkwardness and reality check of usually being face to face or in voice chat with the other players.

Ritsu · **01-03-2018, 09:39 PM**

On a side note: I was SUPER thrown off by people wanting romance/sex RP. For the first bit of my RP in FFXIV it was all being badass, fighting bad guys ect kind of RP. I moved to Balmung and was a bit surprised by it. I was more used to tabletop - and you really don't have much of that.Â

OP has already decided to throw in the towel, but figured I would add my two and a half cents.Â

When it comes to Mateus, please remember it is new and growing. I haven't really rolled an alt there but I have heard folks pros and cons about it. I think the biggest point that keeps coming up is "It is fine as long as you find the right group." Which can be a touch discouraging.Â

And really the same could more or less be said about Balmung. We have lots of great events and I have made friends outside my FC with lasting connections. But overall my time spent is with my FC folks. As someone who runs an FC, I like to keep mine on the small side. Since I want our folks to get personal attention. It has it's pros and cons, too many people and folks can get left out, too few - there aren't many to rp with. For me Balmung has been more positive over negative for the most part.Â

Re-rolling a lot? That is always a hard one. I have a friend that tends to do that. I always adjust for them and thankfully it tends to be the same characters over and over again (maybe a time or two with a random one thrown in there) But it is really hard to do any kind of plotting with them since I don't know if in a week or two it will be dropped because they have a whim to be something else.Â

I also have had FC person that did that. I really from the bottom of my heart want people to play what makes them happy. But it became the same issue as it was with my friend. And every time a new character would come around, we would set them up to get "hired" once again. Even did a small plot to have one of his old characters come back from the dead.Â

I get alts aren't everyone's thing. But it is one of the reasons I like them. I have 2 that are primaries and one that I dabble on.Â I can be my sweet au ra hippy flower child or my stoic sniper archer elezen or my punch it in the face hyur. I couldn't change my 2 "mains" I have fits over changing their hair styles sometimes >.>;; (yes, I am weird about that.)

kamenkuro · **01-04-2018, 09:51 AM**

I think you might just be a bit sensitive. Me and my friends talk trash about lalafell all the time. It's a joke though. Few people seriously hate lalafell. You play a meme race you get memed on. It's like Dragoon jokes. Most people will gladly take a dragoon into a party, doesn't mean they won't giggle at their unconscious body. It's a bummer you don't get what you want, but there are a lot of other avenues to go through for roleplay. If you're not super into it and little things like that are pushing you away, maybe it isn't for you.

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