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Ixarien · **01-06-2015, 02:52 AM**

I'm kind of shy too. I find that if I dont throw myself into an RP situation I'll end up idly observing forever. Sometimes the risk is worth it! If you ever see me or vice versa we should RP it up Smile

Nebbs · **01-06-2015, 03:46 AM**

Maybe I could offer an opportunity? Role Play allows us to inhabit a persona that is not our normal self. So maybe borrow some personality from somone you know who is very good at the interactions and just able to chat and talk to others.

It does take a leap, so maybe start this as an alt just to try. I did this myself and ended up with one of my more enjoyable characters ever.

Just an idea.

Jana · **01-06-2015, 04:00 AM**

(01-05-2015, 10:06 PM)Ashren Snow Wrote:
(01-05-2015, 10:03 PM)Faye Wrote: A positive attitude is the most important thing in attracting others. An abrasive and stubborn demeanor will do you no good.
That I'm afraid I can't really help, it's just how I am. I lack a filter between my brain and my mouth, so what I think is what I say regardless of social taboos or etiquette. Trust me, if I could change it I would.

There's plenty of filters between your mind and the game screen: Having to type something out and hit "Enter." I'm a very blunt person, so disciplining myself by having to read everything as I type it is usually enough for me to second-guess some of my habitually toxic (even if unintentionally so) kinds of messages.

Ashren Dotharl · **01-06-2015, 11:59 AM**

(01-06-2015, 01:54 AM)ArmachiA Wrote: Can I ask HOW you're so abrasive? I'm like super blunt and honest myself, but I generally don't have a problem with meeting new people, so I'm wondering what you mean by it? I'm really really opinionated and very outspoken and not really afraid of speaking my mind, but I don't think I'm mean and am generally approachable. What, specifically is your issue?

I'm not necessarily mean or anything, or at least not intentionally. I just sort of lack empathy I suppose when it comes to saying things that could potentially hurt peoples feelings. In most cases a person will think something and before saying it their brain tells them that is probably a bad thing to say, and online people will type something and likewise think it's a bad thing to say. For me that thought seldom crosses my mind.

I've found in life that everyone likes to play mind games even in small ways, like "does this dress make me look fat?" is a great example of this sort of thing, it's an obvious fish for a compliment, but in my mind the thought that you didn't want an honest answer never crosses my mind and if the answer was yes, that's the answer you get. In short I don't spare peoples feelings.

Likewise I'm also rather opinionated on a lot of things, and unless a person who opposes my opinion is capable of proving my opinion wrong I won't change my mind on it. That seems like it should be common sense, but you'd be surprised how often I get called stubborn or pig-headed for refusing to budge on a subject without proper evidence I should.

I make a good first impression in most cases, I have a good sense of humor, I'm easy to talk to, and those who do consider me a friend often rely on me at times when they need someone to talk to, but the problem is I am brutally honest with people and over time I've found a lot of people can't take it. It makes me come across as an asshole I guess, and so it creates anxieties with trying to meet new people.

It also doesn't help I think that my character is a bit salty and hard to approach, usually drunk or drinking, and when he's not he probably working on some new idea of his to pass the time. He's a be crude and brash, even a tad lecherous, the mostly just a lone wolf war vet from the Calamity.

Inessa Hara · **01-06-2015, 12:22 PM**

Just an idea, but self-involvement in the affair's of the community is the fastest way to branch yourself out.

I have an anti-social disorder, but usually, if you come if with an RP gameplan and stick too it as well as lot's of OOC communication and generally being a nice guy/girl/person, you will find youreself knee deep in community 'shenanigans', lol.

Aside from that, dont branch out too far. You wont be able to keep up with everything if you flood youreself in RP, unless thats what you want, then go ahead, but it will take time away from endgame and other things in the game,

Aduu Avagnar · **01-06-2015, 12:29 PM**

One thing I learned abput playing a lone wolf/vet character (from larping as one) is that unless you give people an in, even if its a small one, people tend not to approach them. They have no real reason to. And you get to sit around being broody and lone wolfy.

Take Nako for instance. He started out as a lone wolf, but I gave him two avenues to open up rp. 1- he is an serving member of the flames, so can easily integrate with that area. 2 - he teaches magic, so again, can discuss stuff with other mages Â or students.

Ashren Dotharl · **01-06-2015, 02:10 PM**

(01-06-2015, 12:29 PM)Nako Wrote: One thing I learned abput playing a lone wolf/vet character (from larping as one) is that unless you give people an in, even if its a small one, people tend not to approach them. They have no real reason to. And you get to sit around being broody and lone wolfy.

Take Nako for instance. He started out as a lone wolf, but I gave him two avenues to open up rp. 1- he is an serving member of the flames, so can easily integrate with that area. 2 - he teaches magic, so again, can discuss stuff with other mages Â or students.

Hmm, well Ashren runs a shop called Iron Coeurl Smithing out of Limsa selling salvage and refurbishing or repurposing "claimed" Magiteck from Garlemald. So I guess that's an avenue in a way.

Aya · **01-06-2015, 02:56 PM**

Just.. walk up and talk!Â Sometimes they ignore you.Â Sometimes they're so mean that you just cock an eyebrow and wonder, "HOW COULD ANYONE BE SO MEAN WHEN I JUST WANT TO TALK".

Sometimes they're even rude in OOC tells!Â Oh, it happens! (though rarely).

But sometimes they turn into friends you keep :-]

McBeefâ„¢ · **01-06-2015, 03:06 PM**

I find it helps to have a very strange quirk at the start, that gives you a reason to approach strangers. My first character, Natalie, was a member of the Sultansworn, so I'd always approach strangers, ask them if they were new to the city, tell them not to cause any trouble, etc etc.

Evangeline is a angry political agitator (though she's calming down these days), so I would approach every random stranger and hand them political pamphlets, and lecture them on issues. Most characters reacted negatively, but it was a connection, and that's really all you need.

Think of some reason that your character might need to approach strangers, even if it's not normal for them to do so. It really helps build the initial connections. Here are some ideas:

Your character lost something important, and is trying to find it
Your character needs a loan, or needs to buy some sort of rare item
Your character is lost, and needs directions
Your character does not understand the local customs, and has to ask others to explain
Your character needs to learn a certain skill, and is looking for a trainer
Your character has controversial views on a certain subject, and wants to share them
Your character is biased against a certain group/race of people
Your character is looking for work
Your character is looking for employees
Your character is looking for a place to stay
Your character is trying to sell something
Your character is looking for someone

Those are just some I thought up in a few minutes, but you get the idea. I find when you have a new character, it's a losing bet to hope people find you. However if you have something, even something temporary, it can help you make a large number of connections very quickly.

Nebbs · **01-06-2015, 03:20 PM**

ohh meeting ideas.. ooh

There is a nasty bug on their neck.. do you point it out or just slap it away?

You dropped a coin and it rolled between their legs, do you leave it, ask or just start crawling?

You pet snake escaped and is loose in your robes, you dance into people.

He looks just like Uncle Erkilax... you owe him a big hug.

You ordered some cake but they got it wring now you have far too much and decide to share

Aduu Avagnar · **01-06-2015, 03:35 PM**

Speaking of looking for new employees, Nat. Nako will be doing that quite a but iver the newxt few days.

McBeefâ„¢ · **01-06-2015, 03:36 PM**

(01-06-2015, 03:20 PM)Nebbs Wrote: ohh meeting ideas.. ooh

There is a nasty bug on their neck.. do you point it out or just slap it away?

You dropped a coin and it rolled between their legs, do you leave it, ask or just start crawling?

You pet snake escaped and is loose in your robes, you dance into people.

He looks just like Uncle Erkilax... you owe him a big hug.

You ordered some cake but they got it wring now you have far too much and decide to share

"You have something stuck in your hair."

"Your zipper is undone...." (does eorzea have zippers?)

"Your laces are untied."

"What is good to drink here?"

"Where did you get that shirt!"

The possibilities are endless. Even a stupid thing can set you up for a solid connection.

Aya · **01-06-2015, 03:40 PM**

"Oh hiiiiiiiiiiii!Â Wow wasn't that a great party?Â Can you believe what he did with that... wait, aren't you that [guy/gal] from Costa last weekend?"

D'aito Kuji · **01-06-2015, 03:43 PM**

(01-06-2015, 03:36 PM)Natalie Mcbeef Wrote:
(01-06-2015, 03:20 PM)Nebbs Wrote: ohh meeting ideas.. ooh

There is a nasty bug on their neck.. do you point it out or just slap it away?

You dropped a coin and it rolled between their legs, do you leave it, ask or just start crawling?

You pet snake escaped and is loose in your robes, you dance into people.

He looks just like Uncle Erkilax... you owe him a big hug.

You ordered some cake but they got it wring now you have far too much and decide to share

"You have something stuck in your hair."

"Your zipper is undone...." (does eorzea have zippers?)

"Your laces are untied."

"What is good to drink here?"

"Where did you get that shirt!"

The possibilities are endless. Even a stupid thing can set you up for a solid connection.

Just the other day, after completing the Brayflox dungeon, my character was asked to help set up the banquet and there were a couple of RP'ers in the area where I needed to be.

So, just like I would in real life, I said "don't mind me, I'm just setting up for a banquet that's going to be held in a while."

And when my Chocobo accidentally walked through them, I apologized for my bo's bad behavior.

This generated some quick but satisfying RP and I had a chance to complain about all the trouble I've been going through to even get to the point of setting up the banquet.

So add: Minion/Companion does something unexpected giving you a chance to apologize or talk to anyone who might have been offended.

Gegenji · **01-06-2015, 03:45 PM**

(01-06-2015, 03:43 PM)Daitokuji Wrote: So add: Minion/Companion does something unexpected giving you a chance to apologize or talk to anyone who might have been offended.

Using your minion as a talking piece is always good. Gran's made himself a few friends, both in game and over the forums.

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