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RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Unnamed Mercenary - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:19 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:05 PM)Melodia Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: What everyone (except me, lol) said is basically it, summed up pretty nicely.

When I try to make friends in real life... I just end up scaring people away for some reason... D:
*has no friends irl anymore*

I know and agree with everyone here. I am just surprised because some folks I have even rp'd with tend to just stop saying hello or anything....it's just odd. This is my first MMO....first time I have ever really dealt with folks online. But it is HUGELY discouraging. Causes me to stick around my little tiny FC house a lot. Sad

Don't let little things like this discourage you, please. It's nothing. You can pester me whenever you want, and RP wise, Eleni is a very friendly person IC (ask Franz if you don't believe me) so she will stay in touch and be open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

^YES!

On that topic, we need to RP more! ;; 

Last couple of times I saw Eleni online, I was already neck-deep in RP and had to take a raincheck. Can definitely vouch for awesome person to RP with. 




...I should also look up that cookie thread and see if we can get that moving along again.

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - g0ne - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:18 PM)Melodia Wrote: Oh, I am in deep trouble then.....I take that kind of stuff (the interaction engagement with others) super personal, each one lost breaks my heart. Cry

There there. *huggies*

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Yangh - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: Open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

I uh... I think its best I don't shed light on the -other- context of that particular part! xD

But yeah, it happens a lot and I'll be honest, I sometimes do it too. I don't mean to of course but when you RP with a lot of people, the less frequent RPers sort of fall off the map. Its why I leave my room ICly always open and if im' idling in there and it isn't locked? I'm open for RP!

Only had a couple come visit unannounced though... hope that changes!

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Unnamed Mercenary - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:18 PM)Melodia Wrote: Oh, I am in deep trouble then.....I take that kind of stuff (the interaction engagement with others) super personal, each one lost breaks my heart. Cry

Only advice I can offer here is try your hardest not to take it personally. Generally, it isn't. (The exception being people who do intend to be mean, but who cares about them anyways?)


People will tend to come and go like waves on a beach. It's just sorta the nature of MMOs and the internet in general.

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - g0ne - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:22 PM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:19 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:05 PM)Melodia Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: What everyone (except me, lol) said is basically it, summed up pretty nicely.

When I try to make friends in real life... I just end up scaring people away for some reason... D:
*has no friends irl anymore*

I know and agree with everyone here. I am just surprised because some folks I have even rp'd with tend to just stop saying hello or anything....it's just odd. This is my first MMO....first time I have ever really dealt with folks online. But it is HUGELY discouraging. Causes me to stick around my little tiny FC house a lot. Sad

Don't let little things like this discourage you, please. It's nothing. You can pester me whenever you want, and RP wise, Eleni is a very friendly person IC (ask Franz if you don't believe me) so she will stay in touch and be open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

^YES!

On that topic, we need to RP more! ;; 

Last couple of times I saw Eleni online, I was already neck-deep in RP and had to take a raincheck. Can definitely vouch for awesome person to RP with. 




...I should also look up that cookie thread and see if we can get that moving along again.

Aww... thankies so much, big guy. Smile

Likewise, Franz is basically a softie, so go pester him too! Do it! Do it, I say!!

And more RP!!! Bouncy Yesh!!

Cookie thread? What be this cookie thread?

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - g0ne - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:24 PM)Yangh Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: Open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

I uh... I think its best I don't shed light on the -other- context of that particular part! xD

But yeah, it happens a lot and I'll be honest, I sometimes do it too. I don't mean to of course but when you RP with a lot of people, the less frequent RPers sort of fall off the map. Its why I leave my room ICly always open and if im' idling in there and it isn't locked? I'm open for RP!

Only had a couple come visit unannounced though...  hope that changes!

Did I say something wrong? Undecided

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Oroban - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:30 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:24 PM)Yangh Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: Open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

I uh... I think its best I don't shed light on the -other- context of that particular part! xD

But yeah, it happens a lot and I'll be honest, I sometimes do it too. I don't mean to of course but when you RP with a lot of people, the less frequent RPers sort of fall off the map. Its why I leave my room ICly always open and if im' idling in there and it isn't locked? I'm open for RP!

Only had a couple come visit unannounced though...  hope that changes!

Did I say something wrong? Undecided
Er...buggery/buggered is in many regions of the world a slang term for butt stuff, I think that's what she was alluding to. xD

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Steel Wolf - 12-02-2014

I've found most RP'ers in MMOs tend to be very clique-ish. It's no more egregious behavior than raiders demanding levels of item score or knowledge and is viciously unwelcoming.

So, yea...I know this feel, Melodia. Perhaps it's taken too close to vest but it also doesn't make one feel enfolded.

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - g0ne - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:33 PM)Oroban Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:30 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:24 PM)Yangh Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: Open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

I uh... I think its best I don't shed light on the -other- context of that particular part! xD

But yeah, it happens a lot and I'll be honest, I sometimes do it too. I don't mean to of course but when you RP with a lot of people, the less frequent RPers sort of fall off the map. Its why I leave my room ICly always open and if im' idling in there and it isn't locked? I'm open for RP!

Only had a couple come visit unannounced though...  hope that changes!

Did I say something wrong? Undecided
Er...buggery/buggered is in many regions of the world a slang term for butt stuff, I think that's what she was alluding to. xD

Oops? Blush

Let's stick to 'pestered'... ehehehe...

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Yangh - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:36 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:33 PM)Oroban Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:30 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:24 PM)Yangh Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 12:56 PM)Eleni Wrote: Open to being buggered whenever Melodia wants.

I uh... I think its best I don't shed light on the -other- context of that particular part! xD

But yeah, it happens a lot and I'll be honest, I sometimes do it too. I don't mean to of course but when you RP with a lot of people, the less frequent RPers sort of fall off the map. Its why I leave my room ICly always open and if im' idling in there and it isn't locked? I'm open for RP!

Only had a couple come visit unannounced though...  hope that changes!

Did I say something wrong? Undecided
Er...buggery/buggered is in many regions of the world a slang term for butt stuff, I think that's what she was alluding to. xD

Oops? Blush

Let's stick to 'pestered'... ehehehe...

Hahaha! That's too cute!!!

*snuggles* Awh!

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Melodia - 12-02-2014

Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Oroban - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:36 PM)Steel Wolf Wrote: I've found most RP'ers in MMOs tend to be very clique-ish.  It's no more egregious behavior than raiders demanding levels of item score or knowledge and is viciously unwelcoming.

So, yea...I know this feel, Melodia.  Perhaps it's taken too close to vest but it also doesn't make one feel enfolded.
That would be why despite being i113, I haven't been past t5 because I'd only ever go with a full group of people I know and would enjoy going with, because I don't pay to play a game to get berated by strangers. Hopefully soon we'll get  the last few people we need..

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Steel Wolf - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@

Do please elaborate? :<

*readies a bag of Roehugs*

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Zhavi - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@

I think a lot of people wind up with social acquaintances over friends, especially online where there are so many people. I'm an introvert. Too much social interaction wears me out; it's why I actively avoid making new friends in person (social contacts, yes. Actual friend-friends, no) -- I can barely give the few I have quality time, so why want more?

It's the same in game. If people have a lot of social interactions, chances are most of them won't be friends-friends; simply put, their attention will be too spread out to focus enough on more than a select few. And in that vein, they probably mean well, but ... are just too spread out. Especially if there's multiple things they want to do; I've been known to forget about things I said I was going to do, particularly if I thought (for some reason) that I was waiting on the other person for something. Ooops. Your best bet is open communication.

But, I dunno, to me -- I don't make many friends online, for the same reason I don't make friends in person. Yes, I like a wide number of people and yes, I always try to be available if someone needs a sympathetic ear, but until you know the names of some of the people important to me in person, my name, and I know your name and some of your important people and other details about your life -- until I'm actively engaging you in communication outside of the game and checking up on you every so often -- I don't consider us friends. Doesn't mean I don't regard people positively or would be adverse to becoming friends, but to me there are many social levels between someone I just met and someone I'll set my personal time aside for when things go south for the other person.

That said, <3s and hugs.

edit - to clarify, perhaps some of it is that the type of friends you want to be and the type of friends/acquaintances the other party/ies want to be are two separate things.

BUT I'M YOUR FRIEND SO THAT COUNTS FOR SOMETHING RIGHT?!

RE: MMOs and Fairweather Friends - Lost River - 12-02-2014

(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@


O.O Why would that be? Nooo.

Also, *offers Roehugs too* Cause we're so rare, you get double the rareness. Yay. ^_^