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RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - D'eshel - 03-28-2015

I do what a few people before me have already said. I go with the flow. Sure, if there's something that my character doesn't like, then I just simply make him -try- and walk away, because... why shouldn't he? Unless he has some reason to stay, that is. I won't mention things like the need to go AFK or something, because I don't think that's what the OP was talking about.

However, if OOC comes into play and there's something I, the player, not like about the current roleplay, then... well, it depends on what sort of thing it is exactly. If we're talking about godemoting on anything like that, then I'll either walk away or inform the player behind the toon that I won't tolerate stuff like that. If it's something less uncomfortable, like a character getting really close to the "loller line", then I tend to roll with it. At least it can make me laugh.

All in all, I'm a tolerant and patient person. But if I see that somebody doesn't show respect to me, the player, then why should I do the same for him? Doesn't mean that I should break character and ruin my immersion just because of people like that. No, I won't humour those people. It's exactly what they want.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Cato - 03-28-2015

Never be afraid to just have your character up and leave if a particular session is making you uncomfortable. Role-play is mean to be enjoyable after all and let's be honest: there's a lot of creepy individuals out there who use it as a means of trying to pressure people into helping them get their rocks off.

I hold the firm belief that every role-player has the responsibility to act like a decent human being when it comes to the inclusion of mature themes in their role-play. You never really know what someone's tolerance level for gore and sexual themes are unless you carefully ask them about it in a mature and dignified manner.

If I feel like someone is overstepping their boundaries or becoming too creepy I usually tell them to back off or just ignore them outright if it's extreme enough.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - D'eshel - 03-28-2015

(03-28-2015, 01:20 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: Never be afraid to just have your character up and leave if a particular session is making you uncomfortable.


Oh, I wasn't saying that I'm afraid to do that. If something is -too- uncomfortable for me, as a player, then yeah, I'll mostlikely leave, but on the other hand I'm not that easily swayed, I mean I witnessed a lot of stupid things irl already, so maybe I bolstered up my resistance to it.

Though I very much agree with your second point and it saddens me just how many people forget about the one simple fact, that this is a MMO we are playing. These are actual people you're interacting with, just hidden behind their avatars. Roleplay shouldn't be all about -your- personal fun, because just as, say, in a cinema, there's a certain code of conduct to follow when you enjoy the expierience, such is the same thing with roleplay.

Whether or not you wish to ignore a person who does something you may not like is entirely down to the player. There's no written rule that says you -should- or -shouldn't- ignore these kind of people. Follow your mind, feelings, heart or whatever.

P.S: graeham ffs log in to the game already i've been trying to add you for days now ;s

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Gabineaux - 03-30-2015

It takes a lot to make my character uncomfortable. But it doesn't take much to make me uncomfortable. I usually stick it through and go "OH NO!" "OH MY GOD!" "HOLY SHIT!" (imagine it in Joseph Joestar's voice) then at the end of the day I snicker to my friends about the hilariously terrible RP I endured. I'm an awful person and I genuinely have fun screwing around with creepers.

And as for this particular situation? I wouldn't be afraid to OOCly ask friends to save you ICly. Is it some form of meta gaming? Probably. But if you don't want to do something, don't do it. Plus it's a good way to get a friend to RP with you. Everybody wins but creeper!

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Nebbs - 03-30-2015

Here is a handy process

If RP seems to be veering off  [Give IC signals]
If IC signals don't work [Take it to OOC]
If they don't get the message [Exit]

Exceptions:
  • You can always exit at any time
  • You can always ask for backup at any time


RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - ArmachiA - 03-30-2015

I actually have a bit of an issue with this sometimes. See, Armi isn't like me at all. I'm loud, brash, speak my mind, and am generally outgoing. ARMI is shy, sweet, isn't good at bringing her thoughts to words, and is really accommodating. I trust no one, Armi trusts EVERYONE.

This has gotten me into a few binds where I want to leave but Armi wouldn't leave, since if someone is hitting on her she wouldn't actually realize it at all unless it was extremely overt.

Luckily, I created a failsafe where the more overt they get (Which tends to happen if they are looking for one thing and is realizing Armi isn't catching on at all) she just bolts. She gets uncomfortable and itchy and just gets the hell out of there.

If they send me a tell, I then explain why and tell them to chill on the creepy.

I've even had ooc friends bail me out icly, if it comes to that because you don't OWE anyone rp. If you know where the direction is headed and you don't want it to go there, you have the right to stop it. Always.

I don't even get uncomfortable easy, or hardly ever, but I don't suffer people who just want to get in my characters pants. She is way more interesting than her genitals.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Renata Lynn - 04-02-2015

(03-30-2015, 07:42 PM)ArmachiA Wrote: She is way more interesting than her genitals.
QFT. That's how I feel about Eorla. She's more than a warm tunnel for a roaming adventurer. She has hopes, dreams, aspirations, and none of them really deal with finding a partner. If it happens in time, it happens, but she isn't looking for it, and she doesn't want to be involved with someone for just a tumble.

I mean, she's not anti-romantic things, but she takes things at face value and fails to see any hidden agenda. If someone says "You are pretty", she takes it as, they think she's pretty and are just stating so....even if "You are pretty" really means "You're doable and I'm here for that". If she says someone is handsome or beautiful, dependent on gender, she's genuinely not hitting on them. She's simply stating something she perceives to be truth. 

That said, I do see a relationship in the cards for her, but not a "Hey I just met you, and this is crazy, but here's my linkpearl, so call me maybe" on day one and "I'm gonna love you until Turn 70" on day two type of thing.

Edited to add more thoughts.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Aldotsk - 04-03-2015

There are those kind of people who take IC issues to OOC issues and make it into a drama.

But there are those kind of people who take IC issues into OOC issues, then make it into more than just a drama - by spreading unnecessary rumors and then make it more than just a simple deal. I've had several people who message me OOCly who tried to approach me awkwardly or weirdly and asked me if I was "okay" with eRP. I said no, and when people also confess to me, I still say no. I usually just change subjects, and if they start to aggravate me, I just tell them to just take a break between us. I don't blacklist them, and I don't witch hunt them. Whatever happened between me and that person is just the two of us.

With that all said, I've shared my awkward situations with people ICly and OOCly before and even in real life. So I clearly understand when others do that to me. I just bluntly tell them that they need to speak casually. In the end, I still might say no to whatever that person asked me to do with them. :p

If RP goes in a bad direction, I plan out and try to make a choice to see the alternative. If someone didn't PM me, then I take it as they don't intend to make it into OOC drama. But if I see myself in a position where I don't have any alternative options for myself, then I just end up telling the person OOCly to see what can be done to fix it. I don't get angry first, (I did several times on some ends when people make huge mistakes and didn't intend to ask me about anything).

tldr, if you feel uncomfortable, then you just tell the person that you do feel uncomfortable in roleplaying or talking with him/her. If they still bother you, then you give them a warning or block them by blacklisting.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Meishali - 04-03-2015

Well, looking at the thread... Everything has been said on the matter, to be honest. I personally do what is interesting for my character. In that sense, absolutely any interaction is good to take, but this doesn't mean I will role play with certain people, especially not if they act like complete creeps and expect cybering. I am not here for that, and so I will not meddle with people who appear to be here only for that. 

I am patient, so when/if flirt happens I usually take a good look to see if it's true, mature in character interaction from my interlocutor. If it's not, I take my leave after some IC remarks.

No matter how much you want to stay IC, not everybody in game is well intentioned and it is absolutely fair to hint IC that you don't want to stay or to fake your character having something else to do (even if it is against your character's personality, aka they're flirty, etc). RP is supposed to be a fun thing to do. If what you do isn't fun or if a certain character spoils your fun by sending absolutely creepy OOC remarks, what's the point of keeping it up?

In character or OOC, OOC or IRL, if anything makes you uncomfortable, anything at all, I believe you have the absolute right to say no and/or to leave and block/cut ties with this person.

I've literally been here for two days and I've seen some of these people. One of my favorite game is tormenting this kind of creeping stuff OOC by asking a lot unrelated questions. ("Do you like cabbages?" "Tea or coffee?" "My grandmother's salmon lasagnas are amazing.")
But I'm impish and this kind of situation amuses me more than it annoys me, but I'm still severing IG contact if it is too creepy. Some people are definitely desperate. But hey! It takes all kinds to make a world!

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Ryanti - 04-03-2015

(03-30-2015, 06:43 AM)Nebbs Wrote: Here is a handy process

If RP seems to be veering off  [Give IC signals]
If IC signals don't work [Take it to OOC]
If they don't get the message [Exit]

Exceptions:
  • You can always exit at any time
  • You can always ask for backup at any time

Game, set, match. Nothing I could add to that.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Lyria Stormdancer - 04-03-2015

(04-03-2015, 08:57 PM)Ryanti Wrote:
(03-30-2015, 06:43 AM)Nebbs Wrote: Here is a handy process

If RP seems to be veering off  [Give IC signals]
If IC signals don't work [Take it to OOC]
If they don't get the message [Exit]

Exceptions:
  • You can always exit at any time
  • You can always ask for backup at any time

Game, set, match. Nothing I could add to that.

Agreed completely, that's about how I was going to respond.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - Renata Lynn - 04-04-2015

(04-03-2015, 07:51 PM)Meishali Wrote: "My grandmother's salmon lasagnas are amazing."
Huh Good thing I haven't eaten today...that would have emptied my stomach.

RE: How do you handle RP when it takes a bad direction? - S'imba - 04-05-2015

I'm generally pretty chill and go with the whole, "Do what your character would do." I don't want people to change their character for my sake. S'imba can be talked into some pretty bad situations due to his "I want to help everyone" nature. It's really changed S'imba from where he was a year ago. While a lot of stuff that's happened to him the last several months I never intended for his character have occurred and quite a bit of it I had some worry about when it started I rolled with it. It's ended up with him in situations that are way over his head but I'm ok with it due to the fact that's what happens in life. Then he deals with it the best he can. It's made him a lot stronger as a character and for me it keeps him from becoming stale to me. 
That being said if something does go bad enough to bother me I'll talk to them OOC though offer a solution that will still let both of us still have a good experience. If that doesn't work then it's just walk away. It does still have a lot of cons but it's just what makes RP an enjoyable experience for me. 

That's what's important RP in a way that's fun for you.