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***Nero*** · **12-28-2016, 06:54 PM**

I can't imagine that the wallflower approach works well enough for anyone to attempt it more than once. This is akin to lighting a match and expecting your neighbour to use it to grill an entire cow for you, and when they don't you instead set yourself on fire while shouting "YOU MADE ME DO THIS!"

Verad · **12-28-2016, 06:57 PM**

(12-28-2016, 06:54 PM)Nero Wrote: I can't imagine that the wallflower approach works well enough for anyone to attempt it more than once. This is akin to lighting a match and expecting your neighbour to use it to grill an entire cow for you, and when they don't you instead set yourself on fire while shouting "YOU MADE ME DO THIS!"

I think if you actually did the above you'd get a lot of responses in a hurry.

Do your best, folks. Light yourselves on fire in front of strangers.

***Nero*** · **12-28-2016, 07:01 PM**

Now that I think about it, I can't believe that Ala Mhigan monks haven't been setting themselves on fire in protest of the occupation.

I'd love for someone to try that as an intro to RP. Sit in the Quicksand and set yourself on fire.

Rosehip · **12-28-2016, 07:22 PM**

I'm not a huge fan of the "glance at someone" approach either. It does rely on the other person to do the actual approaching, and I think a direct interaction usually works better.

I will sometimes "take the bait" and interact with someone who's glancing at my character, but it's happened quite a few times that even that is met with, well, pretty much nothing. To me, emoting at someone usually means you're at least somewhat interested in interacting with them, but I've tried several times that someone glanced at my character, she responded, and was then met with maybe a grunt or just general dismissal. And some characters are like that, I get that, but then I don't think it's the ideal place to look for interactions with them, because now you're not only relying on someone else to do the approach, you're also relying on them to keep pushing your character for interaction, which can be hard to expect from strangers.

With my less-than-social characters, I usually prefer getting them into storylines with friends where I know we can talk about how to get them involved in a way that is fun for both of us. And then, if I want to bring them to larger gatherings, I usually go with those friends, so my character has a reason to get dragged into interactions.

Faye · **12-28-2016, 07:34 PM**

Sadly, this is what people are talking about when they mention how some people in the community feel "entitled" to RP without putting any effort in whatsoever. You didn't do anything in this situation. You can't be blamed for anyone else's bad attitude and lack of social skills. If you see others around you who seem to be "fishing" for RP--even ones doing it as poorly as this guy was--it would definitely be nice of you to approach them and emote at them, but you are not at all obligated or expected to do that.

And the "glances at ____" approach can work if you want to get someone's attention, but is a thing that's easy enough to miss or write off IC and/or OOC that I don't think anyone can rightly get frustrated if the other role-player doesn't take the bait.

Verad · **12-28-2016, 08:13 PM**

(12-28-2016, 07:01 PM)Nero Wrote: Now that I think about it, I can't believe that Ala Mhigan monks haven't been setting themselves on fire in protest of the occupation.

I'd love for someone to try that as an intro to RP. Sit in the Quicksand and set yourself on fire.

With the right amount of setup, it could be a good pre-Stormblood event. The trick would be framing the posts so as to avoid the issue of the otherÂ way that is a frequently awkward introduction - stumbling into a public place while badly wounded and begging for help. Self-immolation could easily come off as that.

Kellach Woods · **12-31-2016, 12:00 AM**

For some reason, I'd think some Ala Mhigan monks would sooner set themselves on fire in order to punch the enemy because clearly fire punches are superior than use self-immolation as a protest thing.

Also, isn't Rhalgr's whole schtick lightning?

Arrelaine · **12-31-2016, 01:28 AM**

Maaaan I knew this one person who would do the weird 'not to anyone' emotes trying to set bait. Like, they would get so mad when no one responded to their character sitting there smoking like 10 feet away. There seems to be quite a few roleplayers like this, but I've only personally met one. I only knew them for a short stint, but no, you don't owe anyone anything. The glancing pointedly at someone's character until they respond weirds me out just as someone doing it RL some place.

I'll occasionally use the 'not to anyone' emoting because I feel awkward having my character -not- emote, but I don't expect anyone to really respond to it outside of 'ok this person is not afk'.

ckingch · **12-31-2016, 08:43 AM**

This is why I've gotten used to sending /tells to people asking if they are IC and approachable, or asking if they wanna RP and perhaps they initiate contact because my character's in a mood or whatever. Though, due to his outgoing nature I'm mostly doing the initializing.

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