Beating a dead horse by saying that I think these have always been, and will always be problems within the community.Â
On an interesting note I guess I could bring up the example of Faolan. I really don't play him any justice because he's supposed to be a real jerkass. But IRL I'm excruciatingly nice and I struggle really playing him as the asshole with a heart of gold he's meant to be. The latter is easy. But the former? I always end up with d-bag-lite. I'm working on it though. Someone please teach me to be an asshole. When I do manage it you can guarantee I'll be spamming your pms with coddling reassurances. 'He's a real prick but I swear I'm not OOC. Please feel free to contact me at any time if you start to feel uncomfortable and I'll redirect!" and "I'M SO SORRY" every time he drops a particular toothy line. And it's partially because of the worrying OTHERS will IC/OOC mix I mellow him down unless I'm doing private rp.Â
Sometimes with squabbles I'll need some OOC conversation to make sure we're still on good terms.Â
IC/OOC mixing, particularly when the other person's priorities seem romance-bound, makes me NOPE NOPE NOPE the hell out of there faster than anything else.Â
Eh, on the ERP subject I don't really feel I can judge any rp that goes on between individuals in private. My personal opinion on the contents of that rp is a moot point. There is room in this world for both those comfortable with ERP and those who are not. We need only respect one another's preferences- Without judgement or scorn. But that goes for preferences in general. There are some things I'm not comfortable with in rp. But that's a personal preference, and I recognize that. So I can't look down on those whose rp employs those subjects. I just don't participate. Likewise, I respect that some people may not be comfortable with subjects I include in my roleplay, and never create situations in which people are forced to participate- As well as make sure they can know they can redirect or straight up drop the rp at any time they want to, no reasons needed, no strings attached. I'd rather be overzealously overprotective than unintentionally hurt someone.Â
If someone doesn't respect your boundaries they are not someone you want to be roleplaying with.
However I can understand the frustration with unexpected whispers blatantly attempting to solicit sexual roleplay. What, you're not even going to buy me dinner first? Rude.
On an interesting note I guess I could bring up the example of Faolan. I really don't play him any justice because he's supposed to be a real jerkass. But IRL I'm excruciatingly nice and I struggle really playing him as the asshole with a heart of gold he's meant to be. The latter is easy. But the former? I always end up with d-bag-lite. I'm working on it though. Someone please teach me to be an asshole. When I do manage it you can guarantee I'll be spamming your pms with coddling reassurances. 'He's a real prick but I swear I'm not OOC. Please feel free to contact me at any time if you start to feel uncomfortable and I'll redirect!" and "I'M SO SORRY" every time he drops a particular toothy line. And it's partially because of the worrying OTHERS will IC/OOC mix I mellow him down unless I'm doing private rp.Â
Sometimes with squabbles I'll need some OOC conversation to make sure we're still on good terms.Â
IC/OOC mixing, particularly when the other person's priorities seem romance-bound, makes me NOPE NOPE NOPE the hell out of there faster than anything else.Â
Eh, on the ERP subject I don't really feel I can judge any rp that goes on between individuals in private. My personal opinion on the contents of that rp is a moot point. There is room in this world for both those comfortable with ERP and those who are not. We need only respect one another's preferences- Without judgement or scorn. But that goes for preferences in general. There are some things I'm not comfortable with in rp. But that's a personal preference, and I recognize that. So I can't look down on those whose rp employs those subjects. I just don't participate. Likewise, I respect that some people may not be comfortable with subjects I include in my roleplay, and never create situations in which people are forced to participate- As well as make sure they can know they can redirect or straight up drop the rp at any time they want to, no reasons needed, no strings attached. I'd rather be overzealously overprotective than unintentionally hurt someone.Â
If someone doesn't respect your boundaries they are not someone you want to be roleplaying with.
However I can understand the frustration with unexpected whispers blatantly attempting to solicit sexual roleplay. What, you're not even going to buy me dinner first? Rude.
