I'm in the same boat as Melodia, I'm lonely. I don't have any friends IRL, my family lives in another state, I hardly see my SO because of work (may as well be mysterious roomate), due to my son's school schedule I can't work, go to school or volunteer. FFXIV is my only source of social interaction and to have the people I thought I bonded with vanish on me time and time again is discouraging and depressing.
People offer their company but I would want to get to know them first, which takes a lot of time for me. Its difficult for me to open up to people. I've been burned by friends in the past (recent past at that) so I keep my distance and wait to see how things might go but I think keep them at too great of a distance and they run out of patience and think I don't like them much. Its not that I don't like them, but I don't know how to deal with people any more. I want friends but I'm afraid of being hurt .__.
I've been here since beta and still haven't found that best friend that I can do everything PvE with and be an inseparable duo in RP. When I think I finally have... they vanish! I want it badly and I envy those that do have such a bond
People offer their company but I would want to get to know them first, which takes a lot of time for me. Its difficult for me to open up to people. I've been burned by friends in the past (recent past at that) so I keep my distance and wait to see how things might go but I think keep them at too great of a distance and they run out of patience and think I don't like them much. Its not that I don't like them, but I don't know how to deal with people any more. I want friends but I'm afraid of being hurt .__.
(12-02-2014, 05:09 PM)Oli! Wrote: I haven't read the whole thread, so I'm not sure if this has been mentioned yet or not, but one thing that might be worth keeping in mind is that sometimes people are friendly because they're shopping around for a person or a group of people that they want to interact with every day. Once they find what they're looking for, they generally invest their time and conversation in those people, and the rest sort-of fall by the wayside.
I know the concept of "friend shopping" might seem like a really awful thing at first glance, but one must understand that people will naturally gravitate to others that have interests and opinions that they can agree with or take part in. It's not that you're a "bad" person and that whomever they've found are "better" people, it's just that they happen to be more suited for that particular person's personal taste, which isn't a bad thing in and of itself.
I am sure that, given time, you would be more than likely to find people who are willing to stick with you due to commonalities.
I've been here since beta and still haven't found that best friend that I can do everything PvE with and be an inseparable duo in RP. When I think I finally have... they vanish! I want it badly and I envy those that do have such a bond
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