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Faye · **12-24-2014, 04:30 PM**

(12-24-2014, 04:27 PM)Edvyn Wrote:
(12-24-2014, 04:24 PM)Faye Wrote:
(12-24-2014, 04:07 PM)Edvyn Wrote:
(12-24-2014, 04:06 PM)Faye Wrote: But to give an answer in vain: Does it really matter? If someone wants to ERP everyone and call it polyamory, more power to 'em. I don't see why it should really matter to anyone. Likely, the type of people to do that would practice polyamory IRL, even if closeted, if they could find the right partner. Regardless, why does it matter what someone would or wouldn't do IRL? I wouldn't do 75% of the things my characters do. If you would do all the same things your character would, you're not role-playing, you're inserting yourself into a fantasy universe.
i am bringing up an actual concern - namely that there are people who use polyamory as an excuse rather than a storytelling device

it doesn't matter what someone would/wouldn't do irl, I am questioning people's intent in rping "polyamory" as I have seen far too many cases in my years spent in other games/sites of creepy straight dudes playing lesbians that sleep with everyone and aggressively seek out people to erp with - even if those people don't want to erp with them. these dudes almost definitely wouldn't practice polyamory irl, some I've dealt with actively opposed it.

is it wrong to find an ethical problem in genuine sexualities/sexual practices being exploited by horny nerds looking for cheap imaginary sex?

Sort of? It's sleazy, for sure, and it's obviously not okay if they're trying to force/pressure/trick people into doing sexual things with them. But if everyone involved is a consenting adult OOC and anything scandalous is done in private, if they want to role-play sexual polyamory to try to get off IRL, good for them, I guess. It's not my cup of tea and I personally don't approve, but I won't fault them for it or try to police their RP.
these people are trying to force/pressure/trick people into doing sexual things with them, and this is where the problem lies! I have personally dealt with people trying to guilt trip me - as in me the player, not just the character! - for not responding well to their hamfisted attempts to drag me into gross cybersex

Of course, and that's a problem and something that definitely should not be happening! I've dealt with it often, myself. However, not everyone after cybersex or ERP is manipulative, underhanded, or abusive about it, so it's not really fair to generalize like that.

Mod note by FreelanceWizard: Removed some quoted text that I excised from the thread.

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