This has happened with my character Saefinn, we just talked it over and came to an agreement on how we both saw our characters going forward in their absence. My character is in an IC relationship, but the friend playing the partner for the most part has stopped playing. We agreed to keep it going ICly, but to treat her like a background character as part of the story, but isn't physically there. The reason for this is because our 2 characters had no reason to split, even though there were OOC reasons to. It has worked out, because there's periods when I'm not roleplaying, so it manages to be one of those implied background activities. I've always taken value in OOC communication about IC things, because it all affects our own enjoyment - I don't want other people to become uncomfortable or unhappy or for their experience to be ruined. In fact, for the above relationship, we had a long OOC discussion at the start. People sometimes have different visions, so it's good to ensure you're both on the same page. I have seen it when this isn't the case and it can get messy.
However, when it has come to members leaving, who are involved with my FC's plots, I kinda treat them as ex-crew members or people on hiatus or leave. I sometimes still make reference to them, like yesterday's RP, a guy referred to somebody as "Black Rose" and Saefinn turned around and said, "I knew a Rose once, she wasn't black, but she slugged me a few times". Sometimes people unfortunately do not make an IC exit or discuss how they're leaving ICly, so you have to make recoveries.
That said, if it's a close relationship and something interwoven, I find it is respectful for both to talk about it, perhaps something to discuss when setting it up or at leave, because it comes to that situation where you break apart, so it's not jarring and you can be prepared for it. After all, people won't play the game to infinity (and beyond!) and one will leave before the other, most likely.
However, when it has come to members leaving, who are involved with my FC's plots, I kinda treat them as ex-crew members or people on hiatus or leave. I sometimes still make reference to them, like yesterday's RP, a guy referred to somebody as "Black Rose" and Saefinn turned around and said, "I knew a Rose once, she wasn't black, but she slugged me a few times". Sometimes people unfortunately do not make an IC exit or discuss how they're leaving ICly, so you have to make recoveries.
That said, if it's a close relationship and something interwoven, I find it is respectful for both to talk about it, perhaps something to discuss when setting it up or at leave, because it comes to that situation where you break apart, so it's not jarring and you can be prepared for it. After all, people won't play the game to infinity (and beyond!) and one will leave before the other, most likely.
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