(02-05-2015, 06:59 AM)ArmachiA Wrote:I'm kind of in the same boat, though I have had characters just outright take the choice out from under my feet before. To the point where my RP partner and I just had to stop back and ask each other what just happened because neither of us expected it. Oddly enough the only truly lasting 'romance' I've had in those veins morphed into an enduring friendship more than anything else - particularly because my RP partner's character just doesn't understand the concept of romantic love. Affection and lust to a certain degree, and he definitely understands and embodies the concepts of familial love, but he's about as emotionally constipated as they get while still being horrifically squishy. He and my character are still unbelievably cute together and have several children, but it isn't a typical romance because if pressed to describe why he loves my character he'd get a blank look upon his face as the concept just does not compute. Like at all, and often to hilarious effect. Which, on the flip side, my character adores about him. They're a bit of an odd couple though.(02-04-2015, 12:00 PM)Zhavi Wrote: => Try your damndest not to hold other peoples' choices with their characters against them. Even if you feel they are breaking [insert unspoken social rule or bit of rp etiquette or setting rule here], the only character you have full control over is your own.
Not gonna lie, I tend to get very vocal about ONE thing that I hate more than anything - characters falling in love within the week. It's mostly because every single person who has caused drama for me in RP tried to push romance too fast and either got upset that I took it off the table or, in my earlier years, it raised a red flag but I let it continue and then it blew up in my face. When I see two people roleplaying their characters as in love or closely bonded after a week, I get really, really agitated and feel like they only want RP romance. I can even tolerate blatant lore breaking more than that and I generally don't even WANT to rp with people who I find out doing it.
I know this makes me kind of a bad person, it's not any of my business at the end of the day and I'm really vocal about it, but I'm trying to hold my tongue more. On that I actually do have to take a step back and breath. Regardless whether or not I'm right in the end, these people are adults and after my initial vocalizing my distaste I need to let it go.
Working on it. Even I am human XD
Personally I don't much begrudge people for RPing whirlwind romances, it's their right and I'd be a hypocrite otherwise given the fact that it's happened with me in the past. I just much --much-- prefer slow burns, but I can see where other people wouldn't. Personally if things go too fast I tend to slam the proverbial breaks and back out of it, because like you pointed out it has bit me as well in the past. Particularly when I don't screen who I roleplay with. The above RP partner had been a good friend for months before we put those two characters together, and I trusted them to respect my boundaries. It's... Harder with new people though, and like the theme of this particular thread communication is utterly key. All that said, I don't think it makes you a bad person for having an opinion.
