Hihimi Wrote:Kage, people aren't perfect, and anyone who freaks out over such a small thing as wanting some attention isn't worth hanging around. People have high times and low times in their life, and one cannot expect everyone to get rid of everything in order to RP. That is, throwing away your own emotions to process your characters' emotions seems extremely wrong in my opinion, biased as it may be, and I've personally found that, as an extremely emotional person, it's best to tie these emotions in with offscreen, NPC driven events. This will allow you and your character to process simultaneously and should help you grow as a person as well.
So much this.Â
I've been in that place where I've felt like time was demanded of me. I've felt like things that I've done "wrong" were going to negatively impact my character, and that it was all "my fault."  This is the place where 'bleed' becomes dangerous. When it's making you second guess your every move, where instead of you playing and enjoying your space and your friends and your creations, you're now only worried about the other people and how you're affecting them.
It's a horrible place to be, one that is so easy for new or even less confident RPers to get sucked into. I am one of those people. I'm always questioning whether I'm good enough, and it's been that way since I started. There are going to be people who see that in you and try to use that against you.
The way to avoid it is to learn what you can and cannot deal with and stick your foot down from the beginning. Tell your potential RP partners your limits and issues ahead of time. Listen to them when they discuss theirs. And don't let anyone put you into a situation that you are uncomfortable with on an OOC level. If it starts to affect your day to day life, back the fuck out. Because it shouldn't do that.
If you're going to RP as an escape, let it be that. Don't let it drag you down into an even bigger hole.
Climbing out of something like that may be tough, but you've got to look out for you at the end of the day, and not anyone else. People who don't see that, aren't worth your time.
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