(03-27-2015, 03:29 AM)ArmachiA Wrote: Aya, you're kinda... part of the popular crowd though, your experience would be VERY different.And I always was? I was never entirely new to the RPC, with all of my active RP friends having quit, my FC having fallen apart, and no real idea where to begin or where to go to find RP? I was close to quitting because the game just hadn't been fun for a little while. I couldn't find RP in Gridania, and I didn't really care for Ul'dah.
All I'm saying.
I met new people first on the forum, and then in-game. I did have to make the hard decision to cut my ties to Gridania and move on to Ul'dah, something that today I do not regret at all (though I hope it is less necessary). I pushed my character onto a new trajectory, and put myself in position to meet new people on a regular basis. I did not simply leap onto the forums and find myself blessed with a bunch of friends. Instead I did exactly what I am suggesting: I approached people, I talked to them, I tried again and again to make friends. Sometimes it doesn't work, even now every night I RP at the Quick Sand I'll have people dismiss Aya with no desire to interact. That's just life... I don't know how else to put it
That said, I think the majority of people that I RP with in a given week are entirely new to me. There are definitely recurring characters in my casual RP, people I know now from a year of interaction, but you'd probably be surprised how little time I get to have with these friends, and how much I spend with people I've never met before. That's less so at the moment with so much of my RP being centered around Verad's plot, but this is an anomaly for my time in FF RP. And the wonderful thing is that terrific and fun people are joining up fresh for FF RP every single day. Its a beautiful, wonderful thing.
Graeham Ridgefield Wrote:Others, however, do not - and in some cases the blame isn't on their shoulders.
Tiergan Wrote:I also agree that we shouldn't really be assuming that everyone who is having an issue isn't making that effort and leave it at that.I cast no blame! I am only offering advice. The onus falls unfairly on new people, that's just an unfortunate fact of social interaction.
By the way, for a while when I first started to RP in Ul'dah I even did exactly what Nara'to described! He's probably done an even better job of it than I did. The Quick Sand was a pretty sleepy place back then.. and.. it never did any good for me either. It was only when I started to approach people more frequently that things started to get better. And I do realize it won't work for everyone, but I think until you've given it a good try, you really don't know what the possibilities are. Social anxiety is a very real thing (I certainly feel it too), and some of our initial attempts are clumsy and awkward. But, as the saying goes, nothing ventured, nothing gained.
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