(03-27-2015, 12:17 PM)ArmachiA Wrote: I shortened "the popular crowd" to "the populars" for easy typing. No need to read anymore into it.
I just don't see a problem with established people making it easier to help pave the way once their established, making easier for the next generation of rpers to, as Aya put it, feel more confident about getting out there. If there is something we can do, I want to do it and I don't think "Just go do it" will help. They don't SEE your failures, they only see your successes, "Just go do it" can look very daunting and frustrating to people at times.
You know as well as anyone else that when things get heated, niceties go out the window. If something can be read into it, it almost always will.
I see your point, but I also don't see any particular reason why the folks who've spent so much of their time have to then turn around and also "do the work" for new folks. It's character building. I learned a lot about the community while doing so. I learned what works, what doesn't. I learned how to approach people. There is a difference between holding someone's hand and giving them a push in the right direction.
If there's something I can do, I'll do it. However, the definition of "something" is going to vary wildly from person to person. Could I turn over my nights to helping people feel like a new free paladin and showing them the ropes? I could, at the cost of my own roleplay and evening. I believe, and have always believed, that roleplayers are selfish by nature. It's human. We all want to do well and be loved and have that acknowledged. I admit that not wanting to mentor or coach someone in need is selfish of me. I also feel content with the path I've walked, on my own, and the reaction and presence I've established while doing so.
Again, no one else can climb the mountain for someone. I can't make anyone feel comfortable roleplaying. Hell, I've had people tell me I'm too intimidating to approach, despite constant coaxing out of character. At a certain point, I stop investing because there's no return on that. I've only ever intended on telling people about what worked for me, specifically me, and how that might not work for other people. I don't know what works for other people. I'm not other people.
You want canon-lore-recommendations? I can help. You want to fight in the Grindstone (at Fesca's Wash, at 10PM EST)? I can help. You want advice on how to people well? Sorry, man, I can't help you there.
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