(03-27-2015, 02:18 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: It's not really my intention to guilt trip people. Apologies if it seems that way - I usually wouldn't resort to such a low blow but I couldn't figure out how else to raise the point after repeatedly biting my tongue. Obviously I'm not going to name and shame since that's against the rules but...it's just food for thought and people are welcome to do with that what they will - whether it's ignoring it, contesting it or working to remedy it.
And I get that, that's why I felt the need to point it out, because it could be read that way. Been in too many discussions that have gone to hell because someone took something on a personal level.
(03-27-2015, 02:18 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: As for people being busy and only human, that's totally understandable. It's not an attack: I'm just raising awareness that it can be pretty disheartening when someone ends up caught in a net and unable to 'break in' to a fresh social circle to expand their list of IC and OOC contacts.
I know the feeling. I also know that the biggest obstacle is common times and locales. We don't just have conflicting IRL schedules and personalities to contend with, there's also our in-character schedules and personalities that can get in the way of two or more characters meeting and their respective circle of contacts expanding.
It's like multiplying two decimal values. 0.1 x 0.1 = 0.01, after all. And that's really, really lame, but that's how it is.
(03-27-2015, 02:18 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: In regards to the FC I'm in now I simply made an application and sank my teeth into role-play the moment the opportunity became available. Again, I'm not really starved for role-play due to my FC but expanding beyond it has been where issues have arisen.Â
As for where I've tried to get stuff up and running? Pretty much everywhere, really - Ul'dah has been a major target but so has various areas throughout La Noscea. The latter interests me more than the former simply because my character concept gives more weight to him being there than lingering in Ul'dah.
I'd agree with you: La Noscea has a lot of appeal to it. My character's background and story took him to Ul'dah even before I knew where most of the roleplayers were to be found, otherwise I might've chosen to make more of an effort in grounding myself in, say, Limsa, for example. Now my character is definitely rooted in Thanalan, and opportunities to break him away from there, while refreshing and I do jump on each and every chance that makes sense from an IC perspective, are rare.
(03-27-2015, 02:18 PM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote: I generally avoid major events because I'm more of a fan of character driven interaction on a much smaller scale. I'm eager to cross paths with people's characters at random and then head off out on an adventure. I never struggled to do that back in WoW yet in FFXIV's community it proves to be largely ineffective.
Disclaimer, never played WoW, but I think this phenomenon in FFXIV largely owes itself to the "Quicksand is the hotspot for RP!" and "Sign up for an event if you need to break out!" mentality which discourages a more personal, one-on-one approach of random encounters. That, and a LOT of new people I see here on RPC list themselves or their characters as really shy and introverted, which makes losing themselves in a noisy crowd a lot more appealing than walking up to someone on the street at random and going, "Hey, will you walk with me for a bit? I'd like to ask you about _____" as a hook.
(03-27-2015, 02:22 PM)Apl_Juice Wrote: Let's also acknowledge that no one is guaranteed anything.
This, too, is very important. Even if someone takes your hook, or you take theirs, there's no guarantee it'll turn into anything long-lasting or meaningful.
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