I haven't been rping much at all lately (Innocence and Avarice is it, really), but when I first came back I didn't really find it any more difficult to find rp than any other place... and here's why:
You have to be ready to accept rejection.
You have to put yourself out there.
In a rp sense, I'm confident enough that I'm okay with the inevitable 'no's and being stood up -- but not everyone is. That's the issue with some new people. They don't want to be ignored, be left out, be disliked, be put out in the spotlight and left hanging. It happens.
To me, you really wanna help someone get into rp if you see them struggling? Send them a pm. If they don't like arranging rp oocly, just nudge them with a 'hey, I'll be on at this time and this area. If we can't meet or we don't seem to be on at the same time, maybe I can introduce you to some people who will be on at the same time'.
Jumping into any new social situation means that your pride or ego might get hurt. You might feel sad. There's just no way around that that I've ever found. And yet, for all the times I got stood up or ignored or told 'sorry, that's just not my thing' I still had as much rp as I wanted.
Persistence and friendliness. That's really all there is to it. And for shyer folks, explain your situation and ask for specific things in your making connections threads (ie, I don't like to plan, but I'm on around this time in this area and if anyone would be interested or is on at the same time please let me know), and I bet a couple people will bite.
All you need is one person to make some really good rp.
You have to be ready to accept rejection.
You have to put yourself out there.
In a rp sense, I'm confident enough that I'm okay with the inevitable 'no's and being stood up -- but not everyone is. That's the issue with some new people. They don't want to be ignored, be left out, be disliked, be put out in the spotlight and left hanging. It happens.
To me, you really wanna help someone get into rp if you see them struggling? Send them a pm. If they don't like arranging rp oocly, just nudge them with a 'hey, I'll be on at this time and this area. If we can't meet or we don't seem to be on at the same time, maybe I can introduce you to some people who will be on at the same time'.
Jumping into any new social situation means that your pride or ego might get hurt. You might feel sad. There's just no way around that that I've ever found. And yet, for all the times I got stood up or ignored or told 'sorry, that's just not my thing' I still had as much rp as I wanted.
Persistence and friendliness. That's really all there is to it. And for shyer folks, explain your situation and ask for specific things in your making connections threads (ie, I don't like to plan, but I'm on around this time in this area and if anyone would be interested or is on at the same time please let me know), and I bet a couple people will bite.
All you need is one person to make some really good rp.
