Yep.
I usually take a step back and take a good hard look at the situation. I'm the type to take a bit of time to over analyze.
Generally the questions I ask myself are:
Why was what was said hurtful to me?
What is my own frame of mind currently?
Was what they said given with malicious intent? (generally?: no. But it has happened. If it does the toxic person gets cut out.)
Depending on the answers to the first questions, sometimes it's a matter of me having strong opinions/feelings/desire about a subject/event and I don't think the other party is giving it enough thought/attention. Which is more on me and my own experiences/desires projecting. In these cases, sometimes talking it out with the other person helps. Sometimes its just a matter of getting over it and letting someone else have their own opinions/accept they don't share the same passion for something I do.
Sometimes I'm just feeling overly sensitive and fragile and reading too much into something.
Sometimes it's a straight up personality conflict. And like the first one sometimes talking it out helps.
But it's always good not to approach the other person until you know you'll be able to talk about it objectively and be willing to listen. Like others have said, don't go into it still riding that emotional rollercoaster.
I usually take a step back and take a good hard look at the situation. I'm the type to take a bit of time to over analyze.
Generally the questions I ask myself are:
Why was what was said hurtful to me?
What is my own frame of mind currently?
Was what they said given with malicious intent? (generally?: no. But it has happened. If it does the toxic person gets cut out.)
Depending on the answers to the first questions, sometimes it's a matter of me having strong opinions/feelings/desire about a subject/event and I don't think the other party is giving it enough thought/attention. Which is more on me and my own experiences/desires projecting. In these cases, sometimes talking it out with the other person helps. Sometimes its just a matter of getting over it and letting someone else have their own opinions/accept they don't share the same passion for something I do.
Sometimes I'm just feeling overly sensitive and fragile and reading too much into something.
Sometimes it's a straight up personality conflict. And like the first one sometimes talking it out helps.
But it's always good not to approach the other person until you know you'll be able to talk about it objectively and be willing to listen. Like others have said, don't go into it still riding that emotional rollercoaster.
