A few times and I come back for more.. soo...
First before all that hurt, be prepared to get hurt. If you are not then you also miss out on the joy.
For strangers and casual friends then this is easily brushed off. If that raid really wound you up go do something else until you can shake it off. This will happen again and again.
Tip: Find a vid/song that always makes you feel happy and calm. Then put an elastic band on your wrist. Every time you feel a twinge of annoyance or hurt, twang that rubber band and play your happy thing. This lets you intercept the automatic reaction and over time you will become more resilient as you start to spot what triggers you. Works for road rage and other stuff too.
What is more hurtful is longer based friendships that go bad, the hurt never goes away in my experience and I carry a few around with me. Try and fix it being open and honest, and if you can't move on. Moving on sounds easy, it isn't .. it really really isn't. Emotions I feel don't care for the logic of separation, emotions are felt by you and are therefore real and you will have to go through real recovery to move on.Â
If you do have to move on, expect it to be painful, break off all contact, links and things that remind you of that person(s). Find new activities and people to be with, and don't be tempted to check on them. Find people who support and believe in you, people who make you smile not frown. At some point you will come to accept the past, and look back on it and learn the lessons about yourself. You will still carry the hurt but you will have some understanding and acceptance.
And it will always hit you when you least expect it.
First before all that hurt, be prepared to get hurt. If you are not then you also miss out on the joy.
For strangers and casual friends then this is easily brushed off. If that raid really wound you up go do something else until you can shake it off. This will happen again and again.
Tip: Find a vid/song that always makes you feel happy and calm. Then put an elastic band on your wrist. Every time you feel a twinge of annoyance or hurt, twang that rubber band and play your happy thing. This lets you intercept the automatic reaction and over time you will become more resilient as you start to spot what triggers you. Works for road rage and other stuff too.
What is more hurtful is longer based friendships that go bad, the hurt never goes away in my experience and I carry a few around with me. Try and fix it being open and honest, and if you can't move on. Moving on sounds easy, it isn't .. it really really isn't. Emotions I feel don't care for the logic of separation, emotions are felt by you and are therefore real and you will have to go through real recovery to move on.Â
If you do have to move on, expect it to be painful, break off all contact, links and things that remind you of that person(s). Find new activities and people to be with, and don't be tempted to check on them. Find people who support and believe in you, people who make you smile not frown. At some point you will come to accept the past, and look back on it and learn the lessons about yourself. You will still carry the hurt but you will have some understanding and acceptance.
And it will always hit you when you least expect it.
Char:Â [Nebula Stardancer] Â FC: [East Eerie Trading Co]
Link Shells: [Hugs & Cakes] Â [Witches' Wyrd Web]
