I'm old and I have a black stone for a heart.
I really doubt there's anything this community could do that would break the emotional fortitude I've been forced to develop in my long eras of RPing and dealing with people.
A big part of that is divorcing myself from this as something to be heavily invested in. It's a game. I run with a "Is it fun?" rule. If it's not fun, if it's not worth the investment, I drop it. It's not worth it, the person responsible isn't worth it.
There's no reason to give them anything worth my time to act. Fuck em.
In practice it's more like : Accept the compliments you receive, forget the insults. If you manage this, Tell Me How
God modder? Can they be salvaged and taught better? If so then work on it. People deserve to have fun and be included. If they double down and are an asshole about their special snowflake who has no flaws and can do everything? Ignore them and don't let them into anything I'm doing. They aren't worth the hassle and they've proven they're not willing to not be abusive/aren't looking for a similar experience that I'm seeking with storytelling.
Drama queen? Block, alert my friends to stay away from the toxic situation, move on. They bring their friends? Block them as well. Shit continues? Sony's harassment policy is there for a reason and works, I hope. I log people's shit-talking pretty extensively to this day because of experience with types of people who deny everything when you try to shut down Toxic Shit. Having logs of idiocy quiets the savage beast and feeds the ban-hammer nicely.
If I screw someone up? Accept responsibility where applicable. Part of being A Fucking Adult is knowing when you fucked up and how to deal with saying I Fucked Up. This is a fairly easy concept known as : Don't be a dick. If you are a dick, stop being a dick an apologize and learn to not be a dick in the future. Don't seek areas where you would have to BE a dick. Not worth it. Don't do it. Dick.
Thankfully I have all the romantic RP tendencies of an shrapnel mine, so I don't deal with that facet of things, ever (Which I think has saved me a LOT of grief, come to think of it)
TLDR; Have fun, stop if it's not fun, assess what's causing the emotional conflict, deal with it maturely if worth it or drop it like a hot rock.
I really doubt there's anything this community could do that would break the emotional fortitude I've been forced to develop in my long eras of RPing and dealing with people.
A big part of that is divorcing myself from this as something to be heavily invested in. It's a game. I run with a "Is it fun?" rule. If it's not fun, if it's not worth the investment, I drop it. It's not worth it, the person responsible isn't worth it.
There's no reason to give them anything worth my time to act. Fuck em.
In practice it's more like : Accept the compliments you receive, forget the insults. If you manage this, Tell Me How
God modder? Can they be salvaged and taught better? If so then work on it. People deserve to have fun and be included. If they double down and are an asshole about their special snowflake who has no flaws and can do everything? Ignore them and don't let them into anything I'm doing. They aren't worth the hassle and they've proven they're not willing to not be abusive/aren't looking for a similar experience that I'm seeking with storytelling.
Drama queen? Block, alert my friends to stay away from the toxic situation, move on. They bring their friends? Block them as well. Shit continues? Sony's harassment policy is there for a reason and works, I hope. I log people's shit-talking pretty extensively to this day because of experience with types of people who deny everything when you try to shut down Toxic Shit. Having logs of idiocy quiets the savage beast and feeds the ban-hammer nicely.
If I screw someone up? Accept responsibility where applicable. Part of being A Fucking Adult is knowing when you fucked up and how to deal with saying I Fucked Up. This is a fairly easy concept known as : Don't be a dick. If you are a dick, stop being a dick an apologize and learn to not be a dick in the future. Don't seek areas where you would have to BE a dick. Not worth it. Don't do it. Dick.
Thankfully I have all the romantic RP tendencies of an shrapnel mine, so I don't deal with that facet of things, ever (Which I think has saved me a LOT of grief, come to think of it)
TLDR; Have fun, stop if it's not fun, assess what's causing the emotional conflict, deal with it maturely if worth it or drop it like a hot rock.
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