(04-22-2015, 05:47 AM)Edvyn Wrote: can't really help people being angry about things.
Sorry I cut so much out of your reply, but I honestly did read all of it. Though I think this last bit sums up quite a bit of it.Â
No, can't help people being angry- but there are things that can be done to curb being angry. And some of that is not to wield it as a weapon. There's a difference between being angry and taking it out on someone because 'they've had a bad day', no one should be really promoting "I've had a bad day". As honestly we all have a lot going on in our lives. This is supposed to be not stressful. Many people come to the RPC and play FFXIV to get away from a lot of it. What I'm trying to get at is; it's okay to be stressed! But don't use it as a reason to treat other's badly.
There's a difference between actually debating something and berating someone as well. Which I have seen. Not to say Person A or Person B is in the right or wrong. However, saying that "maybe they're just fucking around" or "they've had a bad day" kind of waters the situation down.Â
I can't help but echo some of what the mods have said, and others too- people should probably be a little more mindful and just re-read what they're posting. I have to do that as well before I post something I'm passionate about.Â
So in the end of it all I think it all does come down to tolerance and being more mindful on both parts. I've seen this sort of thing happen pretty heavily in guilds; and let's face it RPC isn't the biggest rp community so in a way it's like a very large guild. It's a big group of awesome nerds wanting to do awesome nerd things. There will be disagreements and debates.Â
It's a thin gray line to tred. I've seen in guilds where "So and so is being so hostile!" and then the other party saying "Yeah well so and so is too damn sensitive!". I think in this case there will be people who will believe the above. But like all things; it has to be done in moderation. Drink too much? Man you're going to have a bad day the next morning.Â
Same can be said about being too snarky or taking things too sensitively.Â
In the end I think a lot of it is this; people need to realize there is a situation and figure out how to fix it. Mod team is working very hard, I commend them. But it does take members as well. So being a little less sensitive and a little less hostile will go a long way I think.Â
Like others have said as well, it does come off very unwelcoming to new folks. And I'm a semi-old-hat here and it makes me a bit uncomfortable. So basically, okay I'm rambling now; but- its best to be mindful on both sides of the matter.
I hope that made sense! And I'm sorry if I may have upset anyone by saying it, it's not my intention.
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