(04-22-2015, 08:50 AM)Graeham Ridgefield Wrote:(04-22-2015, 08:38 AM)Datenshi Wrote: The many of you who oftentimes complain of exclusivity and being ignored need to start spending your stat points in Patience. There aren't many personality flaws that dig at me. Betraying your own ideals. Constantly selling yourself short. The big one? Entitlement. I cannot begin to stress just how much the passive-aggressive sighing, that "Everyone's ignoring me" shtick, gets under my skin. As if you're the Yellow Emperor whose needs need to be met for civilization to continue. Honestly, if there's any toxicity in this group, this... culture, whatever it is you wish to call our community it's the negativity that's radiating from those who feel wronged when they don't get what they want right now and place the blame on the community itself for not fulfilling their needs.
And to me, those people stick out like sore thumbs because I find this community positively wonderful.
To be fair there's plenty of people are putting time and effort into finding role-play and they're still struggling to find it through no fault of their own. You can't expect people to be patient forever.
I think it's unfair for people to brush off the concerns raised so readily. It's great that you have found a steady supply of role-play but what you experience isn't the same as what everybody else experiences.
I also don't think it's a matter of 'entitlement' (can we even use that term to describe people who want role-play on an unofficial role-playing realm?) as much as it's a matter of frustration. Not everybody is keen on attending bustling events either - especially if they're more in favour of something much more personal and character driven.
Part of the issue, as I wrote in my post, is that in order to help someone you need specific problems in order to give good, helpful advice. And so, most of the time, generic advice is given ad nauseam and nothing really changes because it probably doesn't apply to the specific problems specific people are having.
People need to come forward with a can do attitude. If they have shyness or social anxiety issues, as I've said, then maybe speak to a trusted friend and have them bring forth the issues.
It gets really frustrating for people to dole out advice after advice after advice to keep seeing 'none of you care, and you're all the problem for not being open enough," you know? Because there are a lot of people here who do want to help and like to help. But if all anyone ever sees is 'nothing is working, no one is able to rp, there are too many cliques' -- then how can anyone help?
Saying "hey, the faucet is leaking and no one wants to help" isn't going to get the faucet fixed. Where is the faucet? What kind of faucet is it? Have you tried asking for a friend's help and is it still leaking? What methods have your tried on it? Have you called someone? Has someone tried to help but you were out of the house or sleeping?
You know? There is no one fix for everyone. So in the meantime everyone trots out the only advice they can give in a generic situation and hope that it helps.
