(04-22-2015, 06:20 PM)K Wrote: People having a thin-skin is often not the real problem in my experience. Rather, it's other peoples' lack of ability to acknowledge the reasons why their posts have been perceived negatively, furthered by their lack of consideration to clarify their stance while reinforcing a friendly - or at least neutral - tone in such a message.This. Hoolllyyyyyy shit this.
Sometimes people just seem far too concerned with their own voice and the validity of their own opinions to do anything other than default to placing it far above the reactions, thoughts and feelings - spoken or unspoken - of those whom may read it/it was directed at.
Now, personally? I get a lot of shit from my boyfriend and some of my close friends (looking at you Ezhara bb~) for playing devil's advocate too much. I do it for everyone. I try to take a step back and think about how the other person might feel even when I have the third party opinions going "DON'T DO IT. FUCK 'EM. GET OUTTA THERE" because I try to treat others as I would like to be treated. One of these being taking the extra minute or two out of my day to propose how things are for the other person's side given what I know or can inference and try to keep it in mind for my responses and decisions in regards towards/about that individual.
I know not everyone does this, and even my usually vigilant efforts fall short at times.
But it sometimes seems to be what many lack. Putting their own voice above and beyond anyone elses' and unable to take a moment to acknowledge how it might come across to another and even moreso when it's actually addressed to the individual whether in a PM, over the forum, etc. 'Nope, don't see it, sorry' usually being along the general phrasing that I've witnessed.
I've seen it a lot in this community though usually in the game in OOC interactions rather then here on the forums though I have spied it here as well.
As a last note, enforcing what others have already said before and myself as well:
No need to be an asshole.
We're all people behind the screen.
In relation to the above: If you wouldn't speak to someone a certain way in a face-to-face conversation, why do it on a forum and be surprised if it's not taken well?
