I agree there, it seems like in Ishgard if a knight barges into a church and demands a wedding, the priest will probably go 'ha ha get out of my church you dirtbag' and that's the end of that. It may not be a full on theocracy but the church is clearly in charge of things politically and socially, if a priest says no you better have a really good reason to appeal that. And yea, saying 'ok fine screw this I'll go to another nation' in response would probably lead to 'cool, we don't recognize filthy outsider marriages so have fun playing pretend I guess'. Ishgard is not a fan of the whole personal freedom thing.
