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(05-18-2015, 11:42 PM)LiadansWhisper Wrote:(05-18-2015, 11:39 PM)Oswin Wrote: I'm personally shocked that there are ten strikes for behavior that people can take as rude or offensive. Past groups I've been a part of were three strikes.
It's not about being passive aggressive or bold, it's about speaking in ways that can be taken as offensive. There should be a decorum of respect when speaking to one another so that people in the community aren't being offended or driven out.
Okay, sure.
But what offends me may not offend you. Â And what offends you may not offend me.
How, precisely, are we to decide what is actually offensive and what is not?
For that matter, with some people, simple disagreement, no matter how politely stated, is offensive. Â Are we to bow and scrape to people who can't deal with the fact that not everyone is going to agree with them?
You can be civil, and yet still not be polite. Â In most forums I have been a part of, civility is the rule, not politeness. Â Civility is much, much easier to distinguish, and allows for people to get offended over things like disagreements without disorder breaking out.
Unfortunately I haven't held the feeling that the forums have been civil for some time. To be clear, the term civil refers to 'Sufficiently observing or befitting accepted social usages; polite.' Civil and Polite are synonyms.
The point I'm trying to make is that there is an air of hostility that has prevailed the community for some time. This thread only perpetuates that feeling. There has been so much picking and digging at a rule that is supposed to make the forums more approachable. It's been ridiculed, even as the rule has been stated to be remedied. It's a perfect example of how things have spiraled in the last few weeks.
I've only just returned to the community and the bile I see makes me question ever posting again. I'm not the only one, we've seen members older than me and much more notable already leaving. The community is fracturing at the seams at it is. It's tragic. But at the same time, this place isn't constructive to what I want for RP anymore.
I've derailed myself. Point is, civil discussion is polite discussion. The best way to uphold it is by following the rules to the letter and if not, then warning up to ban. I don't see what the problem with that is, unless it comes down to not wanting to self censor.